The Right Way to “LET GO SOMEONE”!
What does it mean to “let go”?… Plenty of fish in the sea they say… But what is that even supposed to mean? Is faking how you actually feel, Is pretending that you love someone you can never unlove, Is not grieving over losing something you used to adore is fine? But what happens when you catch a glimpse of them in public, when you hear their voice after what feels like a century, a random Dream that wakes you up at night, or just a spontaneous recollection of them triggered by something you both mutually shared reminding you what could’ve been or what once was? Will you still be able to impersonate those feelings or will the bubble of delusion break?
So how do you actually “let go” or how does the idea of “letting go” actually work?
The idea of “letting go” can be quite contradictory, at least that’s what it is for me. You let go by “holding on” as long as you need to, you welcome those feelings, feel it all, feel all you love, the longing, the ache, the grief, the void and detachment. You live through it you feel through it, and while you do that write letters you will never send, fill journals you will never show anyone, listen to music you will never share, talk it out when you feel alone.
If you try to shove down your feelings, the longer it’s gonna stay there, maybe it wasn’t your fault, maybe you didn’t deserve it, but the fact is it doesn’t matter anymore. They are gone and they don’t care what they left you into, every day they spend without you is an active conscious decision they make to live without you every single day.
While they are not around, Embrace what you feel, if you can’t hate them except that you really loved them, you needed them and you still wanted them to stay.
“Let those feelings flow freely, Hold on as tight as you can until eventually you learn to let go effortlessly”.
