10 Worthy Lessons from the Repentance of Ka’b Ibn Malik
Allah would not leave the believers in the condition you were in, until He distinguished the good from the evil ˹among you˺. Nor would Allah ˹directly˺ reveal to you the unseen,1 but He chooses whoever He wills as a messenger. So believe in Allah and His messengers. And if you are faithful and mindful ˹of Allah˺, you will receive a great reward. — Qur’an 3[Al-’Imran]:179
Ka’b ibn Malik Radiallahu Anhu — may Allah be pleased with him, was a companion of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. He was well known for the events that were related to the expedition of Tabuk. It happened that the Prophet ﷺ had called for the Muslims to get ready for a battle with Caesar, ruler of the Byzantines. The latter planned to invade the Muslims owing to the threat of the Muslim brotherhood's growth in strength and victory.
Everyone knew this would most likely be a tough one for the Muslims as the Byzantines at that time were well-equipped, populated, and also good in the art of warfare. So Ka’b had delayed his preparation with the hope that he had time to catch up with the Messenger and the Muslims. Everyone knew Ka’b to be a good man including the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, so he was worried when he didn’t find him in the Muslim army. Only the hypocrites and those with genuine excuses were left behind in Madinah.
Ka’b’s story provides several valuable lessons for Muslims and people in general. However, space and time will not allow me to publish the entire details of the narrative here. You can read the full story for a better grasp and understanding. Here is a summary of the lessons that can be drawn from his story:
- Allah’s Vindication: So after the Messenger of Allah returned to Madinah and Ka’b had reported his situation, the prophet ﷺ and the Muslims avoided him until Allah exonerated him. Knowing fully well Allah is the All-Knowing and the one who sees the heart of man, Allah’s Apostle waited patiently for a revelation to vindicate Ka’b and the two other companions who had missed the expedition genuinely.
And ˹Allah has also turned in mercy to˺ the three who had remained behind, ˹whose guilt distressed them˺ until the earth, despite its vastness, seemed to close in on them, and their souls were torn in anguish. They knew there was no refuge from Allah except in Him. Then He turned to them in mercy so that they might repent. Surely Allah ˹alone˺ is the Accepter of Repentance, Most Merciful. — Quran 9[At-Taubah]:118
2. Honesty and Truthfulness: His narrative highlights the importance of saying the truth even in difficult circumstances. When he failed to participate in the Battle of Tabuk without a valid reason, he admitted his mistake truthfully when interrogated by the Prophet ﷺ. Even when you look through the chain of narrators in this collection, you will find his grandson relating from his son Abdullah ibn Ka’b. This underscores the significance of acknowledging one’s mistakes, sincerity, and not concealing the truth.
Narrated `Abdullah: The Prophet ﷺ said: “Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to sinfulness and sinfulness leads to the fire. A man may keep on telling lies till he is written before Allah, as a liar.” — Bukhari
3. Accountability and Responsibility: Another derivable lesson from the story is the importance of being accountable for one’s actions. Ka’b acknowledged his failure to participate in the battle and took responsibility for it. He didn’t find an excuse for himself even when he had a chance to. A lesson for us as individuals to own up to our mistakes and make amends when necessary.
4. Repentance and Seeking Forgiveness: After admitting he erred, he sought forgiveness from Allah and turned to Him in sincere repentance. His story reminds us of the importance of seeking forgiveness for one’s sins and not losing hope at the mercy of Allah. Dear brethren, it’s never too late to repent and make a fresh start.
5. Time is of the essence: Time is of inestimable value and this lesson was reflected in the story of Ka’b. Shaytan deluded him into delaying his preparation and this caught up with him before he could realize it. A huge lesson here for us is to avert procrastination and execute the most important things urgently on a scale of priority.
6. Brotherhood: When the Prophet ﷺ got to Tabuk, he enquired:‘What happened to Ka’ab?’ A man from amongst the tribe of Bani Salimah responded: ‘O Messenger of Allah ﷺ he was hindered by his garments and pleasure for his clothes and his self.’ Then, Mu’adh ibn Jabal said: ‘What a wretched statement you have uttered. O Messenger of Allah ﷺ, we do not know of him save goodness.’ There are two key things to note here: how Mu’adh stood to defend the honor of Ka’b and how Ka’b also concealed the identity of the man who spoke ill of him. Another lesson for us is to always think positively about others.
7. Trust in Allah’s Mercy: This story gives us hope and helps to increase our belief in Allah’s mercy and forgiveness. Despite Ka’b’s initial mistake, he still believed that Allah could forgive him. Also, he did not stop engaging in other acts of worship alongside the Muslims. Bear in mind, Oh Muslim! Allah’s mercy is a fundamental aspect of our faith, so do not despair.
Say, “O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allāh. Indeed, Allāh forgives all sins. Verily, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” — Qur’an 39[Az-Zumar]:53
8. Endurance and Patience: During this difficult time, it got to a point where Ka’b was isolated from the community. Even his cousin Abu Qatadah who was beloved to him wouldn’t talk to him during that period. This tells how tough it was upon him and he felt constricted in the vast earth. However, he exhibited endurance and patience. As Muslims, this reflects the value of being patient during times of difficulty and hardship.
9. Not Giving Up: After the dye had been cast, Allah continued to test Ka’b in order to reveal his sincerity. There was a letter sent to him from the king of Ghassan requesting him to join them and they will comfort him. Ka’b immediately burnt the letter and never allowed the idea to settle in his heart. He displayed beauty in adversity and this is a lesson for many of us battling with whisperings from shaytan. Please don’t give in to his tricks.
10. His Reparation: After it was announced to Ka’b that he had been forgiven by Allah, he made amends for his actions by contributing to the community's welfare. He took off his robes and gave them to the man who brought him the glad tidings. This highlights that we demonstrate a commitment to making up for our mistakes by actively contributing to the betterment of society.
Abu Dharr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave with good character towards people.” — Tirmidhi
In sum, this story serves as a powerful example of repentance, forgiveness, accountability, and the importance of community support. We also learned the virtue of patience and strong will as it offers valuable lessons for individuals seeking to rectify their mistakes and strengthen their relationship with Allah and their community. We ask Allah to shower His blessings upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, his household, companions, and the generality of Muslims until the last day. Amin!
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Yaumul Jum’ah 28th Rabiul Awwal 1445H // Friday 13th October 2023.
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