Why Pain Deserves to Be Celebrated
If you didn’t break, you would never meet the real you.
“It has been said that time heals all wounds. I don’t agree. The wounds remain. Time — the mind, protecting its sanity — covers them with some scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it is never gone.”
— Rose Kennedy
We all were a tiny dot once, and then we were a part of the outside world. We grew up recognising the family we are a part of, the values they imbibe, and what we sink in. We learn about our family’s customs and traditions through the festivals we celebrate and eventually grow and learn from the experiences lived by our parents.
But there is only so much that we can take on from our childhood to our adulthood. Memories, for one, are etched into our hearts and mind, but life has chalked a path for us that we have no clue where it will lead.
Pain Is Inevitable
One emotion that we wish never to experience yet want to understand is — pain. We go through pain in so many ways possible. To name a few, the loss of a loved one, that one walking away. We thought that friend would last forever or that outcome that we wished would happen but never did.
All of it somehow brought in overwhelming amounts of pain and left us in a spiral of one thought — but if it lasted, it could have been this way.
Pain truly wrecks what we understand as our usual. Our daily typical of following a routine goes for a toss when going through extreme amounts of pain.
But with time, we shed a layer of ourselves. It’s weird, but when we let go of who we used to be before that incident, it’s the only way we begin to embrace this new version of ourselves.
Pain Develops New Roots
So what happens exactly? The thing is, pain helps develop new roots within us that we didn’t think existed. It shows us this new ray of hope which allows us to look within and discover our hidden potentials.
I broke my heart twice, which was the only way I discovered the writer in me. But I also found who I am as a person and what are my true strengths and weaknesses.
Pain then is a mirror that was earlier filled with dust. Once the sudden wave of emotions clear, we can finally wipe away that dust off the mirror showing us our repressed talents. These talents could be in the form of –
- Discovering that you connect can now somehow connect with people on a different level.
- When you say you understand, you indeed can because somehow, the pain helped you be more compassionate.
- You finally understand the meaning of gratitude.
- You realise that people had to leave at that precise moment because that was the perfect timing for you to grow.
- You develop insane levels of patience as healing is a long, long, long process.
- You look for lessons every day as the pain changes you so much that you discover a little bit more about yourself with every passing day.
Pain Reveals the New You
If I look back at all my heart-breaking moments and wonder if they never happened, I would never be the confident, kind, empathetic, and another whole set of qualities that I have imbibed over time. I would have never grown to think from new perspectives, have an open mind to accept people and situations the way they are, and never make judgments at the drop of a hat. I would have never discovered how I can connect with people and realise that the most profound way to have meaningful and long-lasting relationships is to be open about your vulnerabilities.
Pain then is vital. Instead of cursing that it happened over time, you begin to celebrate and be grateful for it. Because although that pain still hurts and you wish it never happened, it pushed you to explore this whole new side of you that you would never have. It may have benefited you in the following ways:
- You explored hidden talents.
- You realised how stronger you indeed are than what you assumed to be.
- You take more risks as now you’re not afraid to fail.
- You can handle unforeseen situations calmly rather than panic.
- You try and see the bright side of things way better than most people.
Pain then must be celebrated. This new version of you must be marked too. We must be grateful for all that happened, the good and the bad. Without experiencing these two unique sides of life, you would never take that leap of faith to figure out who you indeed are.
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