Healthy Boundaries VS. Fluctuating Belief Systems

“What is definitive for one person may seem outlandish for another.”

Influence and perspective are what connect each of our realities.

Um, okay…

Seems pretty simple I guess. Kind of sounds ludicrous at the same time.

The fact that people have multiple ideas, ways of life, different ways of looking at things and even alternative methods of communicating is what can make the world both complex and simplified if observed correctly.

In one hand you can make the argument that because of all these variables and differentiations the world is increasingly complex to no end as well as less and less ways to relate.

On the other hand there are so many intricate details of ideas, lifestyles, perspectives and communication that fit together like puzzle pieces allowing each other to assimilate similarities and relatable experiences.

Long story short. Everyone is different and relatable in multiple aspects.

It’s how we choose to look at each other and what parts connect or disconnect from each other that determine between the two.

But what does this have to do with healthy boundaries or fluctuating belief systems?

Well let’s take a closer look…

Now fluctuating belief systems may be the result of something like a dispositioned previous belief or insecurity that has not been fully realized.

However big or small they can take up a good measure of your mind’s capacity for processing information. They may be in the form of a just moral code, philosophy or even certain religious beliefs. It is not the belief itself that causes the fluctuation. It is the degree of security of the belief itself within the person who believes the concept that determines the fluctuation in the first place.

For example, think of riding a bike.

Now think of the action itself of how you ride the bike.

Now remember back to when you first learned how to ride a bike if you can.

Now, you can start to understand how you comprehended the idea of riding a bike in the first place. You had to learn of course.

After years of experience from riding a bike soon you were able to not only fully understand how to ride a bike but also believe that it is possible.

I am sure if you are confident in riding a bike then reading this you know there is no doubt in your mind to accomplish that action.

Here’s where the contrast starts:

Fluctuating beliefs are different. Fluctuating beliefs have doubt whether big or small. That is the difference.

Now healthy boundaries are another story.

Some people will think you’re crazy because they cannot control you. Some people may feel like life is out of control. Most people may not understand you but to understand yourself and others is a gift. To know what you can control, what you can’t, who you are and others is something that we can only distinguish to the best of our ability.

Healthy boundaries are a firm set of boundaries put in place (by yourself) based on what your current values are in life. They help determine where you allow a line to be drawn in certain circumstances. They can also help with determining your goals, who is in your life and what becomes of the internal processes for self development into the external biproduct of actions based on said values. This may sound familiar if you have been reading along for the past 9 months. If not, I highly suggest going to Introduction to Freedom of Lifestyle and Building a Strong Foundation for reference.

Healthy boundaries are a pretty unanimous subject if recognized.

The catch is not everyone is aware of each others boundaries or even their own.

This is why it is so important to distinguish these limits for yourself.

If someone else doesn’t understand, they aren’t aware of or do not care for where those boundaries are they will cross them.

So make sure you know and understand where your boundaries lie as well as what beliefs you are nurturing.

Strength, security and determination will allow you to clarify what is from what is not. Everything in the middle may act as a buffer. However it is that gray area that can be utilized with patience and understanding for a whole new perspective.

How are you maintaining the boundaries or limits of your life?

Do you have any?

What beliefs are old and which are strong?

What do they mean?

Who is the type of person you’re looking to become?

Who are you surrounding yourself with?

Where does it all start and where does it end?

When are things going to change?

Or are they going to stay the same?

Why is any of this important to you?

I have no clue. Only you can answer that.