How to Avoid Pain When Losing Your Virginity
It’s not supposed to hurt — and it doesn’t have to
I expected my first time to be painful, at least at first.
Everything I had heard about losing my virginity made me think it would be uncomfortable. But if I put up with it, I could get to the good part — maybe after a few thrusts, maybe my second time having sex.
And it came close to being that way for me.
Pinning down when I actually lost my virginity really depends on how you define it. I tend to think of it as a two-day process.
On day one, I invited my boyfriend over to my place and told him I might be ready to have sex.
But when we actually got to my bed, the nerves set in and I lost all my confidence.
I lied there, trying to make up my mind for what felt like an hour.
No kissing, no touching, not even any cuddling. Just lying there while my boyfriend asked “So, are we going to do this?”
I could practically feel the clock ticking. After a while, I said yes.
When I did, he took off his pants, slipped on a condom, and tried to penetrate me.
And he couldn’t. I wasn’t aroused at all. I don’t even think he was fully erect — how…
