Feeling Closer to You

Trusting a New Person

36 Questions to Deepen Relationships (Part III)

Sieran Lane
Motivate the Mind
Published in
11 min readMay 15, 2022

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Click here for Part I and Part II

Do you feel happier and closer to someone after you’ve shared some deeper, emotional truths about yourselves?

I certainly do! Psychologists Arthur and Elaine Aron made a list of 36 questions for people to ask each other to grow closer. In the original research study where they made this questionnaire, strangers asked one another these 36 questions that become more and more personal as they moved down the list.

At the end, many participants felt closer to each other, and some even became friends.

Mary Ann Miranda thought of the fun idea of writing out her answers to this questionnaire. Here are her responses! “I Think I Love You” Part I, II, and III.

These are my answers to Parts I and II of the questionnaire.

Thank you also to my friend Kiki Lu Johnson for joining us in this activity! Here are her responses: “Do You Love Me Now?” Part I, II, III, IV, V, VI. (She divided up the questionnaire into 6 parts rather than 3 parts.)

And here my answers to the last 12 questions:

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For…

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Sieran Lane
Motivate the Mind

A queer trans writer and therapist. I help fiction writers complete their novels. Let's connect! https://sieranlane.ghost.io