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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships
Learn about narcissists, abusers, and relationships with them and what you can do to set boundaries and protect yourself or leave.
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Spotting Covert Female Narcissism
Spotting Covert Female Narcissism
Learn why female narcissists and psychopaths can be harder to spot, what to look for, and why they act the way they do.
Darlene Lancer
Aug 2
The Stages of Narcissistic Relationships
The Stages of Narcissistic Relationships
Narcissistic relationships go through a painful cycle that is a predictable result of narcissistic personality disorder. Spot them to heal.
Darlene Lancer
Jul 21
Are Narcissists Born or Made?
Are Narcissists Born or Made?
Narcissists can be vexing, but research on narcissism shows they didn’t choose to be that way; they bear wounds of parenting and genetics.
Darlene Lancer
May 4
12 Strategies to Deal with Aggressive and Defensive People
12 Strategies to Deal with Aggressive and Defensive People
Aggressive individuals thrive on provoking and escalating conflict. Read 12 strategies for communicating with them.
Darlene Lancer
Apr 23
The Narcissist’s False Self
The Narcissist’s False Self
Narcissists are master illusionists. They behave like a king or queen — whether bragging or sulking. This persona masks what they really are
Darlene Lancer
Mar 1
How Common Are the Worst Narcissists?
How Common Are the Worst Narcissists?
Sociopathic narcissists like Trump make news but nearly half of marriages to narcissists last. What’s the difference? What are they like?
Darlene Lancer
Feb 22
Symptoms of Children of Narcissists and Addicts
Symptoms of Children of Narcissists and Addicts
Children of narcissists and addicts (all substance abusers) grow up in a stressful, dysfunctional family environment, which in most cases…
Darlene Lancer
Dec 18, 2023
Understanding Gaslighting and the Steps to Deal with It
Understanding Gaslighting and the Steps to Deal with It
Identifying gaslighting behavior and knowing steps to combat it are essential to your self-esteem and mental and emotional health.
Darlene Lancer
Dec 4, 2023
How Narcissistic Parents Can’t Relate and Damage Their Children
How Narcissistic Parents Can’t Relate and Damage Their Children
Narcissistic parents can be emotionally abusive due to the symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder. Look for these signs.
Darlene Lancer
Nov 12, 2023
The Core Trait All Narcissists Share Is Not What You’d Guess
The Core Trait All Narcissists Share Is Not What You’d Guess
There are several types of narcissists who have varying traits and personalities. Researchers have looked for one common trait and found it
Darlene Lancer
Sep 22, 2023
How the Lack of Empathy Hurts Relationships
How the Lack of Empathy Hurts Relationships
Lack of empathy may indicate narcissism (or not). Either way, it causes unhappiness in relationships. Learn to spot the signs and what to do
Darlene Lancer
Sep 12, 2023
How Narcissists Love You Then Hate You
How Narcissists Love You Then Hate You
People with BPD or NPD can quickly shift from love to hate. It hurts, but we can do this, too. Read why and what to do.
Darlene Lancer
Sep 10, 2023
The Narcissist’s Charade
The Narcissist’s Charade
Narcissists are illusionists. They behave like a little king or queen — whether bragging or sulking. Their whole personality is a charade…
Darlene Lancer
Sep 7, 2023
Identifying the Symptoms of Narcissism
Identifying the Symptoms of Narcissism
There’s a lot of confusion about narcissism. It takes more than arrogance and selfishness. Aggression isn’t even listed. Beware of…
Darlene Lancer
Sep 5, 2023
Deciphering the Truth vs. Misconceptions about Narcissism
Deciphering the Truth vs. Misconceptions about Narcissism
Research on narcissistic personality disorder has greatly increased in recent years, but the public discourse is rife with misinformation.
Darlene Lancer
Aug 4, 2023
10 Reasons Emotional Abuse is Serious and Damaging
10 Reasons Emotional Abuse is Serious and Damaging
Emotional abuse is widespread and has become acceptable. It’s under-reported, but is very serious and can be traumatic. Learn why.
Darlene Lancer
Jun 5, 2023
How Covert Narcissists Differ from Grandiose Narcissists
How Covert Narcissists Differ from Grandiose Narcissists
Beware of a covert narcissist. You may sympathize and try to rescue them from their pain. They consume your life leaving you empty and hurt
Darlene Lancer
Apr 30, 2023
Three Secret Behaviors of Narcissists
Three Secret Behaviors of Narcissists
You wouldn’t know these three hidden behaviors narcissists do because their personality is an illusion — a facade of self-protection.
Darlene Lancer
Mar 22, 2023
How Narcissists Play Mental Chess
How Narcissists Play Mental Chess
Narcissists are master manipulators. They play mind games to control you. Manipulation may be overt, such as threats and shaming or covert.
Darlene Lancer
Mar 14, 2023
Managing a Narcissistic Relationship
Managing a Narcissistic Relationship
Living with an abuser breeds hurt, resentment, and anxiety. Whether you plan to stay or leave taking steps to regain your power is essential
Darlene Lancer
Feb 15, 2023
Living with a Narcissist
Living with a Narcissist
Loving a narcissist causes insecurity and despair. Partners sacrifice their needs and daily risk harmful belittling, blame, and rejection.
Darlene Lancer
Feb 5, 2023
How to Spot People Who “Play Victim”
How to Spot People Who “Play Victim”
If you’re empathetic with poor boundaries you can be manipulated by people “playing the victim” — the favorite defense of narcissists.
Darlene Lancer
Jan 5, 2023
Is Your Relationship Toxic and What You Can Do
Is Your Relationship Toxic and What You Can Do
Confusion about the cause of unhappiness in a relationship is normal. Beware that it may be toxic to you. Read the signs and what you can do
Darlene Lancer
Nov 29, 2022
Narcissists’ Persuasive Tactics
Narcissists’ Persuasive Tactics
A breakup with a narcissist might not end the relationship. Learn how they may manipulate you to stay until things return to “normal.”
Darlene Lancer
Sep 19, 2022
How to Tell if You’ve Been Trauma Bonded
How to Tell if You’ve Been Trauma Bonded
A trauma bond is an attachment to an abuser created in a relationship with a cyclical pattern of abuse intermixed with positive rewards.
Darlene Lancer
Jul 7, 2022
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