Relationships
Happiness is a Necessary Component of a Healthy Relationship
Learn to View Happiness as a Set of Skills
How often in life do we bounce around from person to person, always trying to find what we feel will make us truly happy? We spend so much time searching for that perfect relationship. It’s as if we can’t give ourselves permission to be happy until we’ve found the perfect partner. And, ironically, in doing so, I’ve seen a lot of people become miserable, lonely, isolated, and unhappy in a way that makes them unattractive.
This makes it harder to find the very partner that they’ve convinced themselves they need to be happy. The circular reasoning here is mind-boggling and I’ve noticed that when people do this, they usually want the joy of a relationship without the pain or uncertainty that might come along with it. The uncertainty makes them insecure and insecurity makes us unhappy.
It’s a vicious cycle.
This constant striving, this looking at relationships as something to be obtained and not something to be built, all radically misses the point of relationships. Relationships are what we build when we have the other aspects of our lives in order.
For those who don’t know yet, relationships are for people who are already…
