How to Rebuild Broken Trust
Satisfying relationships are built on a foundation of safety and trust that you won’t be hurt physically or emotionally. Whether you trust too little or too much is influenced by your past, but once trust is broken, your sense of safety is in jeopardy. You feel insecure and may begin to question your partner’s honesty, motives, intentions, feelings, and actions. Walls start to grow when you try to protect yourself. Specific steps must be taken to repair the relationship.
The Influence of your Past
If you’ve been betrayed in a prior relationships or trust was a problem in your family growing up, then you’re apt to be on the lookout for signs of distrust. If you’re in denial or have unresolved anger or hurt from the past, you run the risk of either provoking problems in a new relationship where none exist; or on the other hand, unconsciously attracting untrustworthy partners. See my article See my article “To Trust or Mistrust” about how to evaluate trustworthiness.
Codependents and Trust
Codependents have issues with trust. They’re prone to distrust people or the reverse. They trust too easily. Frequently, they do both. The reasons lie in growing up in a dysfunctional family.
