‘You can’t be a sexual mother, that’s gross!’
Motherhood and sexuality can and should co-exist
Recently my friend Junkman submitted an erotic story to the publication I edit, Sensual: An Erotic Life. It was a story about a new mother who finds her breasts leaking while out on the job, and she asks a favorite customer to help her by suckling them. It’s a tastefully done story with a bit of humor in it, but still, we had a conversation about whether some people might find this story to be “too much.” He was concerned that some people might find it too fetish or too taboo.
But why shouldn’t a new mother have a consensual sexual experience, even if it involves her breast milk? There are a lot of mores and expectations that come with motherhood, and one of those is that women should prioritize their children above everything else, including their own needs. It almost goes without saying that her sexual needs should go by the wayside. After all, she’s a mother now. Mixing the two just comes across to many as freaky, gross, or wildly inappropriate.
When Kim Kardashian posed nude, oiled up for Paper magazine, she nearly broke the internet. Not so much because it was a hot picture, or because we got to see her famous derierre featured, but because Kim was now a mother, and it didn’t sit right with a lot of people.
