5 Mutual Masturbation Mistakes to Avoid
To get the most out of the mutual masturbation experience, steer clear of these common pitfalls
Mutual masturbation can be a great way to give yourself pleasure as you bond with your partner. But only if you do it right. I spoke to five sex and relationship experts who told me the mistakes you should avoid when adding mutual masturbation to your sex life.
Setting Orgasm Goals
An important point to remember about mutual masturbation is that it doesn’t have to be done with the end goal of having an orgasm. Setting the expectation that you will orgasm can put you or your partner on the spot, potentially creating feelings of pressure and performance anxiety that could hinder your experiences of pleasure. You can discuss this with your partner, alongside your other boundaries, to ensure that you don’t create this pressure. If you need a goal, aim for pleasure for the sake of pleasure, and not necessarily orgasm. Goals for orgasm, or attempts to make your masturbation look a certain way to your partner, can put you in your head, leading to more insecure thoughts and less access to pleasure.
-Amy Baldwin, Co-Host of the Shameless Sex Podcast
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