5 Ways to Ask for What You Want in Bed
And increase your chances of actually getting it
No matter how good your sex life is, there is always room for improvement and chances are, your partner may not be giving you everything you want. Oftentimes this boils down to one thing: You simply don’t ask. Whether you’re afraid of how your partner will react or you feel generally nervous about putting your desires into words, it’s important to have these conversations — uncomfortable though they may be. These five expert tips can help make it easier for you to ask for what you want in the bedroom…and increase your chances of getting the pleasure you desire.
Pick the Right Time
It can be difficult to figure out the right time to bring up the issue of what you want in the bedroom, but according to Mia Sabat, in-house certified sex therapist at Emjoy, the absolute worst time is when you’re in the middle of doing the deed.
“While it might be tempting to tell your partner about your preferences ‘in the moment’, this is not always the time to engage in a constructive conversation about pleasure. Not only will it kill the mood, but it’ll make your partner feel vulnerable, defensive, and possibly even insulted — and no one wants that,” said Sabat. “Instead, start a conversation outside of the bedroom, and approach…
