The 7 Deadly Sins Of Sex
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Sex is as old as sin.
Pretty much literally — depending on your historical worldview and spiritual upbringing. However, there are a few things that can turn this pleasurable act into something that’s, well, less than pleasurable.
Here are seven deadly sins of sex.
1. Lust — Desiring Someone or Something to the Point of Obsession
Lust is the first deadly sin of sex.
It is the intense desire for sexual gratification that leads to harmful and often addictive behaviors.
When we lust after someone, we objectify them and see them as nothing more than a means to our own ends. This can lead to a dangerous spiral of obsession and control, as we try to keep our partners close at all times in order to satisfy our needs.
It’s like we view our partners as hollow bodies of self-gratification.
Lust is also damaging to our own sense of self-worth, as it can lead us to believe that we are only worthy of love if we are able to sexually attract and please others.
If we give in to lustful desires, we may find ourselves in a cycle of empty relationships and one-night stands, always searching for something that we can never find.
Breaking free from lust requires learning to love and respect ourselves first and foremost. Only then can we begin to build healthy and fulfilling relationships with others.
The way we see others is often an extension of how we see ourselves.
2. Gluttony — Wanting So Much Sex it Hurts
Gluttony is a sin that leads to many other sins.
Gluttony is defined as an excessive desire for more of something than you actually need. When it comes to sex, gluttony wants more sex than you’re actually having.
No matter how much you’re getting, it’s never enough.
This can be a result of a number of things, including an out-of-control sex drive, trauma, or misplaced enmeshment between identity and sexual identity.
Whatever the reason, if you find yourself wanting more sex than needed (and sex that ultimately hurts you in some way), it’s important to take a step back and assess the situation.
Are you truly unhappy with your sex life?
Or are you just wanting more sex than you’re currently getting?
If you’re unhappy with your sex life, it’s important to talk to your partner and see if there’s anything that can be done to improve the situation.
If you’re just wanting more sex than you are currently getting, then it might be time to reassess your expectations.
Remember, there’s no shame in wanting more sex than you’re currently getting, but it is important to make sure that your expectations are realistic.
Otherwise, you might find yourself feeling disappointed and frustrated.
3. Greed — Being Selfish in Bed and Not Considering Your Partner’s Needs
No one wants to think of themselves as a selfish lover.
After all, sex is supposed to be an intimate act that should involve both partners equally.
However, the reality is that we all have our own sexual needs and desires, and sometimes these can conflict with what our partner wants.
This can lead to sexual greed.
In sexual greediness, we think only about our own pleasure and disregard our partner’s needs. This can be a major problem in a relationship, as it can cause feelings of resentment and bitterness.
If you find yourself falling into this pattern of selfishness, it is important to try to be more considerate of your partner’s needs.
Make an effort to communicate with them about what they want from sex.
Try to find a balance between your own needs and their desires.
By doing so, you can help to ensure that both partners are happy and satisfied with their sexual relationship.
4. Sloth — Not Putting Any Effort Into Your Sex Life, Expecting It To Be Just Magically Happen
When it comes to sex, sloth could be the deadliest sin.
Sexual desire is a natural, primal human urge. It’s what drives us to find a partner, fall in love, and create families.
But for many couples, the spark fades after a few years together.
The passion that once brought a couple together dwindles, leaving them feeling bored and unfulfilled.
When you stop trying to make sex exciting and special, you’re effectively killing the sexual desire that holds your relationship together. If you want to keep the flame alive, it’s important to put some effort into your sex life.
Try new things, be creative, and don’t take each other for granted.
With a little effort, you can keep the spark alive and enjoy a fulfilling sexual relationship for years to come.
5. Wrath — Getting Mad at Your Partner During Sex or for Not Meeting Your Expectations
Anytime you’re angry, it creates an emotional barrier between you and your partner.
But during sex, anger is especially destructive.
Not only does it block intimacy and connection, but it can also lead to dangerous and risky behaviors.
If you find yourself getting wrathful during sex, it’s important to take a step back and try to understand what’s driving the anger. Is it something your partner is doing (or not doing)?
Or are you angry at yourself?
(Pssst….you’re probably angry at some perceived loss of control in your life.)
Once you’ve identified the source of the anger, you can start to work on addressing it. If the anger is coming from something your partner is doing or not doing, talk to them about it outside of the bedroom.
And if the anger is stemming from self-criticism or unrealistic expectations, try to be more gentle with yourself.
Sex should be a pleasurable experience, so don’t let anger ruin it.
6. Envy — Feeling Jealous of Other Couples Who Seem To Have Better Sex Lives Than You Do
When we envy other couples, we’re not just coveting their good fortune-we’re actively wishing them ill.
And that negative energy can poison our own relationships.
Envy is often rooted in insecurity, and it can make us doubt our own attractiveness and desirability.
It can also lead us to compare ourselves unfavorably to others, which can damage our self-esteem. If we’re not careful, envy can even drive a wedge between us and our partners.
After all, it’s hard to feel close to someone when we’re consumed with jealousy.
If you find yourself feeling envious of other couples, try to focus on the positive aspects of your own relationship.
Appreciate the things that make your partner special. Focus on cultivating your own sexual fulfillment. With a little effort, you can overcome envy and create a more satisfying sex life for yourself.
7. Pride — Can Make You Unwilling To Experiment or Try New Things
Pride is often cited as one of the Seven Deadly Sins, and for good reason.
Pride can lead to a number of negative consequences, including making you unwilling to experiment or try new things. In the bedroom, this can be downright detrimental.
If you’re too proud to consider trying something new, your sex life is likely to become pedantic and routine. Ho-hum, if you will.
This can put a real damper on your relationship and make it difficult to keep a sexy spark alive.
Don’t let pride stand in your way of great sex.
Be open to trying new things and you just might find that you enjoy yourself more than you ever thought possible.
Final Thoughts
Any one of these deadly sins can kill your sex life.
But beware: all seven of them together are a recipe for bedroom disaster. If you want to keep your sex life healthy and vibrant, do your best to avoid them all.
Otherwise, I’ll see you in confession.
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