What is sex-positivity?

And what does it have to do with sex toys?

Sex-positivity doesn’t necessarily mean having lots of sex. It means having good sex, as often (or not) as you want it.

Mystiq is a “Sex-Positive” company, and we proudly say as much on social media, in our advertisements and elsewhere. We hope it’s closely identified with our brand. But what exactly does sex-positivity mean?

Wikipedia explains that a sex-positive attitude is, “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation.” In other words, if both (or all!) parties consent with what is happening — and continue to consent throughout — then it is a beautiful and healthy thing!

A sex-positive attitude is, “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation.
Anyone know who owns this image? I’ve searched, and can’t find, though it’s posted all over the place…

Sex-positive organizations — like Mystiq — also promote sex education and safer sex. We want everyone to know as much as possible about what they like and enjoy, what is safe vs. unsafe and what is intriguing and possibly worth looking into. Often, a spirit of openness to exploration and discovery is of great value to the sex-positive person, and that mirrors our attitudes about sex and pleasure perfectly.

This song used to come on in the car when I was a kid, and it made me super uncomfortable. Why? I grew up in a sex-negative household. If this came on Pandora at Mystiq, we’d bump it!

Sex-positivity doesn’t necessarily mean having lots of sex. It means having good sex, as often (or not) as you want it.

Sex-positivity means knowing what you want, and taking self-affirming steps to get it. For many of us here at The Sex-Positive Blog, simply joining the staff was a big, self-affirming step. Those of you who have subscribed, read, highlighted, shared our content on social media and said lovely, encouraging, sweet things to us by email or notes have affirmed us in an unexpected and humbling way.

We’ve grown considerably in the month or so we’ve been operating, thanks to an influx of terrific, fascinating, fresh young talent in the past two weeks or so. If it’s been a while since you checked out our About page — with our full writing staff and editorial board listed out in detail — now might be a good time to visit it again.

We’re proud of the staff we’ve assembled, and will continue to assemble, and proud of the global community of self-described ‘sex nerds’ and ‘kinksters’ we strive to be a part of.

If you look at our writing staff, there aren’t many overt similarities. About the only thing every one of us shares or has in common is sex positivity. But that’s a strong bond. We’re not ashamed of our bodies or our desires, but many of us (living in Texas or other Bible-belt states with, at best, ambivalent attitudes towards sex education and sexual freedom) are awash in a sea of sex negativity, and we well know that being sex positive isn’t always pleasant.

Fortunately, we have one another, and we have The Sex-Positive Blog. We will not infrequently use it as a space to vent about the frustrations of planting good seed in rocky soil, but hopefully, more often, we’ll use it as a platform to celebrate and promote other sex-positive, educational voices and share our successes, victories and experience.

If you, too, are a ‘sex nerd’ or a sex-positive individual, we want to hear from you! You can reach The Sex-Positive Blog’s writing staff at sexposblog@gmail.com, and if you have questions or concerns or just want to vent, yourself, feel free to reach out. We’ll occasionally do ‘Mailbag’ stories when enough reader questions/comments have built up. We also have a Google Voice number: (415) 562–7124. It’s set to ‘Do Not Disturb’ and rings straight through to voicemail, so if you would like to leave us one, go for it! We’ll give it a listen, and respond (without revealing your identity… unless you want us to!) here on the blog.

Ultimately, what constitutes ‘sex positivity’ is evolving every day. It’s important to take in active role in shaping those discussions, because they affect all of us and the way we treat and think about one another. That’s what we hope to do here at The Sex-Positive Blog. If you want to join us and the sex-positive movement, follow us here on Medium. Hey, if you want to write for us, we’ve got you covered there, too. Just click the story below to jump to applying to write for TSPB.

So now you know roughly what we mean when we say we’re ‘sex-positive.’ What about you? Are you sex positive? Why or why not? Leave us your stance and reasoning in a response, and we’ll give it a read. And please subscribe and share us with your sex-positive friends!