Mastering peace within relationships.
Peace is a fundamental part of human nature. On the other hand, stress is what drives things towards change. And with change we see new opportunities and stronger connections.
Every second we are faced with the question, to bring peace or stress into our communication with others.
Intense discussions or emotional experiences are needed, for those who want to master relationships. They know that stressful events are like a gear change. If they want to go to the next level trust, they need to switch gears.
I believe that relationships are like heartbeats, as there are moments when you are happy — life is good. But then comes times when there is a real struggle just to find a reason to stay.
So to be alive is to be stressed. It is a bold statement, if we take into account all the facts about what stress does to our health.
The truth is devastating as Webmd states “Stress that continues without relief can lead to physical symptoms, including headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain, and problems sleeping.”
Now I think of how many times I’ve stressed over relationships that was not worth my health.
Humans are created with a desire to find peace. It is found at home while we sleep, sometimes in nature or personal achievements. But the most profitable place where people capitalize all the value that peace can bring, is in our relationships.
We are designed to connect with each other. Having peace in your toolbox is actually taking leadership position, towards creating superb relationships.
Having peace in your toolbox is actually taking leadership position...
The good news is that maintaining a peace is a choice that we can manage. To put in perspective how good is this, there are really not a lot of things that we can control in life, just think about it.
It gets better. Our mind is designed in a way that it constantly updates itself and studies new ways to master reactions. In essence, peace and stress are both behaviors or expressions of our state of mind.
Neuroscientist Andrew Newberg and his colleague Mark Robert Waldman in their book “Words can change your brain” wrote about the power of how behaviors are stored in our memory: “Once a behavior is learned, it slips into unconscious long-term memory, where it can be brought into action with hardly any conscious effort”
In a world where relationships are saturated with stress, mastering peace is an extraordinary skill that we can learn.
Here are just two practices that fit completely into a lifestyle of peace management, and they are not hard.
1. Be at peace with yourself.
Have a good perspective of your self-image, both mental and physical.
If you don’t like yourself, people will feel it and you will always be stressed around them.
Simply start by writing down one thing that you like about yourself and stay confident about it - own this thing. It's a small step, but it can bring peace and eventually better relationships.
2. Feed your mind with peace to have a peaceful attitude.
One of the masters of sales profession - Zig Ziglar, wrote in his book “Secret on closing a sale” — “Your mental attitude is influenced tremendously by what goes into your mind. If you want good “output”, you’ve got to have good “input”.
Stress at work, people’s opinions and comments, media are sources of information what we daily feed our minds with. Usually this is all stress related content.
We can change the input by doing something different. Taking a long walk outside the city and thinking about nature or reading a good spiritual book that inspires us. Also, talking with wise friends.
It's really down to the individual desires, but it's a matter of choice where you invest your attention — Peace or Stress.
Lytham St Annes, United Kingdom
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