How to Find a Chinese Wife Like I Did?

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TheTravellingFrenchMan

8 min readJun 19, 2024

China is one of the Asian countries that I want to return to many times again, as it surprises me every time with its unique mix of centuries of traditions and technologies. Oh, and local women…

Their stunning porcelain skin delicate facial feature, and elegant style is something you won’t find anywhere. No wonder why so many guys from all over the world want to marry a Chinese wife.

My Romance Digest

Is it easy to find a wife in China? Easier than you think. If you can’t wait to find the best ways to get a Chinese wife, look at my notes from my China trip.

📌 Online dating in China is №1 among all of the other options. I researched and tested over 50 sites and found that SakuraDate works best for foreigners seeking a wife from the country.
📌 Visiting China is a trip of a lifetime, but when it comes to dating, be ready to deal with the language barrier. Also, tickets to China are not cheap, so plan ahead!
📌 Social media can be an option, but it’s weaker than other ones. Still, on the bright side, using Instagram and Facebook is completely free!
📌 Marriage brokers are still a thing in China, where there are marriage markets. But be careful! More than half of them are scams. Oh, and prices are from $5,000.

Why do I know so much about Chinese women for marriage?

China is quite an isolated country, but that doesn’t mean that all of you, who dream about dating beautiful Chinese women or handsome Chinese men, can’t do it.

I’ve been to the country a few times, and during my last trip I explored the peculiarities of Chinese dating culture, talked to more than 30 couples and I lost count of the singles I chatted with, as I was in the country for over a month.

As international relationships were always a big interest of mine, I knew that the insights I got from local couples will be very useful to all my readers who seek a Chinese wife or husband.

So, let’s see what locals told me about how to find a Chinese wife.

#1. Mail Order Bride & International Dating Sites

When I asked couples about where they met, every second one (if not more) told me — online. No wonder why there are around 150M monthly visitors in China on different Asian dating sites and apps.

And when I asked how to get a Chinese wife as a foreigner I was told to use one of the international dating websites by almost everyone.

That’s why I want to start my top of the best way to find a Chinese wife from online dating services.

FUN FACTS ABOUT CHINESE ONLINE DATING

89% of respondents in the survey in China said they had used a dating site before
Over 20% of singles on online dating services are over 35
In China, the post-1995 and post-2000 generations take up 14.1% and 18.8% of the users online respectively

Best dating sites: Chinese mail order brides vs. International singles

As you can see searching for Chinese wives online is quite a common practice. However, not all the sites with Chinese ladies or Asian women are suitable for a person with serious intentions.

What you should know is that there are 2 types of sites that might work:

International dating sites. There are online dating sites that offer to find a partner on the international dating scene including China. Dating intentions of Chinese women and men here can be different, from just companionship, and steamy chats, to something more serious.
Mail-order brides dating sites. These online dating services can be China-specific or mono-national. So, you can choose from Chinese mail order brides or Asian mail order brides. If you never heard about Chinese mail order brides before, these are just women who seek husbands abroad. And no, you can’t just buy Chinese wife and get her over the mail.

If you need some recommendations, I have more than 15 sites that are popular among Chinese girls, but I selected the top 4 that will help you meet a Chinese woman online easily and fast.

SakuraDate — best for watching videos of foreign men and women
Naomidate — best for easy search and instant communication with Asian singles
EasternHoneys — best for fun romantic chat with hot Asian women

#2. Traveling to Сhina to Meet Chinese ladies

You know your French man, I’m mesmerized by Asia. Unique Chinese culture with a rich history, the stunning landscapes of the picturesque karst mountains of Guilin the breathtaking landscapes of Zhangjiajie National Forest Park are worth seeing at least once in your life.

Traveling to the country is also a popular option to find a wife in Chinese region.

If you choose to search for Chinese brides offline, I’d recommend you visit China in April-May or September-October, as locals say it’s the best tie to travel across most parts of the country.

Common challenges of searching for a Chinese wife offline

Though you should understand that looking for a potential Chinese wife offline is not easy.

During my visit, I had quite a lot of awkward silence and staring at me, not just because I looked different. Though I was asked for a couple of photos (but I think that I was confused with some celebrity or something).

I don’t get easily uncomfortable, but here are some main things about searching for dates among Chinese girls, that I think the majority of foreigners face.

Language barrier

If you don’t know Chinese at all, as I do, be ready to feel helpless a lot. Though more touristy areas have English translations on menus, I had a big laugh at some of them.

The language barrier can make interaction with Chinese women hard as well as their families as many people in China just don’t speak English at all. The country has low English proficiency, which can cause miscommunications and difficulties in communicating your feelings and ideas.

However, not all Chinese women don’t speak the language, I was lucky to meet many Chinese girls who spoke decent English and were going above and beyond to help me understand everything. So, everything depends on your luck, though learning some basic Chinese is a good idea.

But as for me, it’s mission impossible.

Cultural differences

Something that you feel right out of the plane is that Chinese culture differs significantly from Western one.

When dating Chinese women it takes time to adapt to Chinese dating culture, cultural norms, customs, and expectations. It can be a real challenge.

Misunderstandings will happen and it takes patience, open-mindedness, and willingness to learn to make an international relationship with a beautiful Chinese girl work.

Where can a foreigner find a Chinese woman who is interested in serious relationships?

Surely you can meet a beautiful Chinese woman everywhere if you are in China. However, if you want to be more strategic about dating Chinese women and choose from potential Chinese wives, aka ladies who are interested in serious relationships, here are some suggestions:

Social events and community activities

This could include meetings for language learning, cultural events, interest clubs, or gatherings among the expat community
(especially big in Beijing, Shanghai, and Guangzhou).

By participating in these activities, you can meet Chinese women who have similar interests to you and might be interested in long-term partnerships.

Introduction by Chinese friends or colleagues

Making friends with local Chinese people might help you get introduced to Chinese women they know.

Try to make more friends through work, social events, or common friends as you try to widen your social circle. That’s how I met a Chinese woman I asked on a date.

My top dates locations where you can take your Chinese girl

Li River Cruise, Guilin for a scenic cruise from Guilin to Yangshuo to enjoy karst mountains, lush greenery, and a tranquil romantic setting. I recommend checking out the famous Impression Sanjie Liu night show once in Yangshuo too.
Yuyuan Garden, Shanghai for a romantic stroll through beautiful pavilions, ponds, and rockeries. Explore the bustling Yuyuan Bazaar nearby, which is crammed with stores selling Chinese snacks and goods.
Chengdu Research Base of Giant Panda Breeding for a cute date with your Chinese woman. Enjoy watching these cute creatures munching on bamboo. Many Chinese ladies like pandas a lot, so I’d say such a first date will be a hit.

Read more about my experiences in China

#3. Social Media Apps With Hot Chinese Girls

Another option that you might want to consider is social media platforms. Around 1.2M people use social media platforms in China, and Instagram is especially popular among young Chinese girls.

Though China has its own versions of social media, and even Tik Tok is localized just for the country so that Chinese women and men won’t see Western trends.

Pros

Many Chinese women
You can use social media for free
You are used to searching and communicating on these apps

Cons

Takes a lot of time
It’s hard to know if a Chinese woman is single
Chinese girl reply rate is really low
Risks of scam

Though I was recommended a few times to search for Chinese girls for marriage on social media, I was quite skeptical about it. China has many local social media that are used by most Chinese girls, so the foreigner’s options are quite limited.

But for sure some guys have met their Chinese bride online this way. So, it still might be a way to find a Chinese lady who potentially becomes your wife.

#4. Chinese dating culture: Marriage Agencies & Brokers

Marriage agencies and brokers are a traditional part of the Chinese dating culture, as well as heavy parental involvement.

Though it’s more of a stereotype that China is an isolated country and very traditional when it comes to marriage, the majority of Chinese women and men are open to partly arranged marriages.

No wonder why they have a marriage market in Shanghai.

Advantages of using an agency or broker to meet Chinese mail order brides

You don’t spend time searching potential Chinese wife
The agency or breaker provides a range of compatible Chinese mail order brides
If your potential Chinese mail order wife doesn’t know that English translation is covered by the agency
Some companies help with traveling to the country to meet with different Chinese mail order wives
You can consultation on the peculiarities of dating and how to marry Chinese women as a foreigner

Disadvantages of searching for a Chinese mail order bride with an agency or broker

Marriage agencies ask for big fees upfront
There are no guarantees that they find you a Chinese bride that you like
Many scammers pretend to be marriage agencies and offer fake hot Chinese brides
Sometimes such services are disguised as human trafficking

Though professional matchmaking aligns well with traditional Chinese societal norms, in my opinion, searching for Chinese brides online is far more effective and cheaper.

Can they help you find a Chinese wife? Yes. But is it something I’d choose? No.

Сonclusion: Can I marry a Chinese girl as a foreigner?

Yes. A foreigner can meet Chinese ladies online and offline and get married if both parties are up to it. I think that most of my friends and acquaintances that married not a French or American girl married beautiful Chinese women.

So, pick a Chinese bride website and meet Chinese brides who are open to dating a foreigner and potentially moving overseas.