while(self++) { #68 } // Truly Knowing Someone
A few weeks ago, I wrote a post about dating and how we sometimes don’t notice certain aspects about our partners that annoy us. My mother and I had a discussion about it afterwards, and she said something that made me think:
You can never really know someone until you have mutual responsibilities that you can’t walk away from.
It makes a lot of sense. When you face trials and tribulations together, especially those that have no simple “exit” so to speak, you’re all under a lot of pressure. Moving in together, starting a business, having a child, buying a house. Pressure can reveal a lot about a person; it might show a side quite different from the norm. That’s when people learn more about each other than they bargained for — like that they can’t handle their responsibilities together and shouldn’t be together perhaps.
