PinnedBernard MichaelsThe Day I Learned that I Was in an Abusive MarriageI am forever indebted to an emergency room nurse at a hospital. She saved my life.Jan 2824Jan 2824
Bernard MichaelsThoughts on My First Non-AnniversaryToday would have been my thirty-seventh wedding anniversary. Instead, it’s my first non-wedding anniversary.2d ago22d ago2
Bernard Michaels3 Ways that Healing’s Showing UpAs I told my counselor at a recent appointment, “Healing is f’ing hard.” I knew it would be, but healing’s nuance and surprises, its…Aug 41Aug 41
Bernard MichaelsIt’s No Fun Living a Life That’s a LieThe priest said, “It is no fun living a life that’s a lie.” Having been gaslighted, I finally realize how true that statement is.May 272May 272
Bernard MichaelsMore Closeness, More HealingA trip together, a private location, and true physical and emotional intimacy reveal new experiences and strengthen my healing after abuse.May 253May 253
Bernard MichaelsTrauma Doesn’t Want Me Healing and Messing with ItSunday was perfect. Then, in the middle of the night, trauma comes raging back to remind me that it thinks it thinks it’s in charge of me.May 53May 53
Bernard MichaelsListening to Rain Alone and HealingHealing happens when it happens. Even alone, in a dark apartment. At 4 in the morning. When the rain won’t stop. Maybe it most happens…Apr 282Apr 282
Bernard MichaelsThe Old Mattress, the Random Meeting, My New Apartment, and the Healing AheadThe mattress.Apr 233Apr 233
Bernard MichaelsIs Healing Really a “Thing” After a Narcissistic Relationship?My mother asked, “What are you talking about with all this healing?” Would my need for healing make more sense if I were physically…Apr 33Apr 33
Bernard MichaelsSeven Admissions While Ending a Narcissistic RelationshipIt’s time for several admissions about revelations, healing, hope, and a future after narcissistic abuse.Mar 223Mar 223