Thoughts on singing in the shower

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Let’s start by talking about our conditional reasoning, as most articles about feelings do.

Conditional reasoning is a fancy way of saying:

If x, then y.

For instance:

If I get this job, I’ll feel happy.

On the surface, that sounds reasonable. Some workplaces suck and others are a much better place to spend a third of your day in.

But as we all know, the truth is closer to this:

I’m as happy as I allow myself to be.

In the example above, it isn’t really the job that’s bringing you joy. It’s a decision that you made (without…

The difference that red velvet cake can make

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“Cake delivery service! Check outside your door,” said a message that popped up on my phone. Sure enough, courtesy of my lovely neighbour Lucy, two tall red velvet slices lay nestled cozily beside each other in a clear plastic box on the mat.

It was one of the better things to happen at 22:01 on an otherwise ordinary Wednesday night.

It also pointed to something much more significant: a remedy for most of our everyday ills. I should point out here that I don’t mean the cake itself (though that certainly helps) but the act of giving it.

Try this…

The surprising power hidden in small things

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In maths, ‘small is powerful’ isn’t just a cliche, it’s a fact.

Take the number 10 and place a small number two next to it. Raising it to this power immediately brings its value up to 100.

This isn’t just true in the world of numbers. History has been shaped by seemingly trivial occurrences more often than you might expect.

Tiny Histories by Dixe Wills is a thought-provoking read that details how simple events unexpectedly shaped the course of British history. Take the invention of butter chicken (there, now I have your attention!). Wills recounts the incident in Tiny Histories

A simple way to shift your focus

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In the final chapter of his book, ‘Wait What?: And Life’s Other Essential Questions’ author James E. Ryan reflects on an important question:

“And did you get what you wanted from this life, even so?

The “even so” at the end of the question, to me, perfectly captures the reality that pain and disappointment are inevitably a part of a full life, but also the hope that life, even so, offers the possibility of joy and contentment.”

As a maths tutor, I was recently working on a maths question about scaling up a pancake recipe with a Year 5 student…

Unintentionally, but still

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In a home video that will remain forever etched in our family history, my younger sister KD (aged two at the time) recounts a bedtime story. It involves a girl (we’ll call her Mia) who makes friends with several animals in a forest.

At one point in her animated retelling of the tale, KD happily states that Mia is surrounded by a number of ‘birdies’. At this point my father asks her: “The birdies, were they small or big?”

KD, with the life-affirming eagerness of a young child who wants it all, asserts, “No! Small AND Big.”

It was an…

Instead, choose to enjoy living in it

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Ira Glass, the American radio host, famously described what he called the taste gap, experienced by anyone who begins to do creative work. When you begin a creative endeavour, the contrast between the level of work you are producing at and the level you’d like to be at can be greatly discouraging.

The gap doesn’t just apply to creative endeavours.

Whether you’re trying to improve your diet, your job performance or your relationship with someone you find difficult, there is almost always a disparity between how you’re behaving and how you’d ideally like to act. …

What if the opposite of what you believe is true?

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Every number has a kind of opposite called a reciprocal.

The reciprocal of 2 is 1/2, because dividing by 2 has the same effect as multiplying by 1/2:

10 ÷ 2 = 5

10 x 1/2 = 5

Reciprocals also teach us that everything (including a number!) can be turned on its head, and that there is value in doing this (reciprocals make it easier to divide fractions by each other).

In her TED talk, Kelly McGonigal explains that research shows stress is only harmful if you believe that to be true. In a study, when people chose to see…

None of them involve Zoom

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  1. Leave someone a voice note so they know you’re thinking of them.
  2. Make a list of things, events and people that bring you joy.
  3. Paint. A mug, a flowerpot, a DIY paint-by-numbers kit. It doesn’t have to be a work of art.
  4. Write a real letter. Mail it out. Enjoy the thought of someone who lives miles away tearing open an envelope that isn’t a bill.
  5. Cook or bake something that you haven’t eaten since you were child.
  6. Read. Now’s the time to dig out the books that have been on your shelf in ages, or get a subscription to…

The Forgotten Art of Receiving

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When I was ten, my parents bought me a magic set from Hamley’s toy store in London. I couldn’t wait to start using it — I spent the entire 8–hour flight to India we took the next day relishing the thought of this impressive new skill.

Over the next few years, I was a frequent performer at family gatherings and even managed to find an enthusiastic assistant in my younger sister. The enormous red box remained a source of entertainment (admittedly more for me than for my audience) until I was ready to give it away.

What would happen if…

All it takes is a little time, thought and some beetroot brownies

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You may or may not remember how to find the Highest Common Factor of say, 54 and 30. It’s simply a special value that connects the numbers. It shows that even though two numbers may seem different, when you break them down properly, they’re made of the same building blocks.

Finding the Highest Common Factor you share with another human being is a much better use of your time.

If you have a sibling, chances are there are stark differences between you. Perhaps you have a steady job while they’ve chosen a more unusual path. …

Roshan Daryanani

It’s always time for dinner. Or a pre-dinner snack

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