It may sound counterintuitive, but many of us have a tendency to fall in love with pain.
We cling to it, despite our better judgement, and allow it to become an integral part of our lives.
We might not realize it, but there is a certain attraction to self-destruction that often keeps us from seeing the way out.
Pain can be seductive.
It can offer us a sense of control over our lives and make us feel safe in our own skin.
There is a sense of familiarity with pain that makes it comfortable, even if it’s destructive.
We are used to the feeling, so when we are confronted with a new situation, it can seem easier to just retreat back into what we already know.
Pain can also be a coping mechanism. It can provide distraction from other issues in our lives, giving us a sense of control and power.
It can also serve as an emotional outlet, providing us with a way to release the frustration and hurt we carry around with us.
However, the problem with falling in love with pain is that it does not lead to healing or resolution.
Instead, it leads to an ever-deepening spiral of destruction. It’s hard to get out of this cycle once you’re in it, but there are steps you can take to break free from the cycle.
The first step is always acknowledgement of ‘ what is ’.
Acknowledge the emotions and memories that come up when you’re in pain, and just be aware of it.
Awareness will help you understand the underlying mechanism of pain.
Then you can start thinking of ways to cope with it in healthier ways. Reach out for support from friends and family, or look into therapy and other resources that can help you move away from pain and towards healing.
You don’t have to keep going around in circles, or stay stuck in the same place forever.
Pain can be seductive and powerful, but it doesn’t have to control your life.
Pain will leave you once it has done teaching you
But first, you have to recognize its hold on you, and make positive changes to your life, only then the possibility of freedom from pain arises.
