Run toward the fear, and it will disappear.
If you’re like me, you tend to overthink things.
As an introvert, I thoroughly appreciate my ability to ponder and daydream. This has served me well in terms of creativity, but killed me in terms of action.
All the thinking in the world won’t solve anything; only action can bring about what I want to see.
So when it comes to relationships, don’t hesitate.
The heart knows what it wants.
Sometimes thinking gets in the way of feeling and overanalyzing the situation will force you to stall out before even taking the first step. Of course you need to have standards and that requires thinking, but once those have been met, time to get to work!
If it frightens you, run toward it.
Don’t think too much about the future
Looking down the road to resolve future problems before they’re even here is stupid. There are enough problems in the average day to deal with; let the future take care of itself. In other words, cross the bridge when you get there. Furthermore, whatever ‘plan’ you have in place to prevent problems will probably fail anyway. The only way to move forward is to be in the moment.
Stay positive
The fear of failure and the fear of pain will prevent most people from pursuing happiness and satisfaction in their relationships. Don’t let that happen to you! Self-preservation dictates that we look out for our own best interests, but taking a leap of faith and preserving optimism will take you further.
Be realistic
I have found that the anticipation of a problem is much worse than the problem itself. Once you get going, the problem resolves itself or the resolution becomes apparent to you. So if handling a long-term relationship frightens you, join the club. If expectations and the responsibilities of an adult relationship scare you, don’t worry that’s natural. But don’t think about it. Thinking too much about it will freak you out; just have faith that you’re up to the challenge.
You never know how something will turn out unless you give it your best shot.
So pursue that fear and beat it to a pulp.
You’ll feel better, I promise.
