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I Have My Younger Self to Thank for Pushing Me to Decenter Men

The woman who centers men loses herself.

5 min read22 hours ago

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The Straight Shot

Why I Left a Good Black Man and My One Regret

It was a ‘struggle love’ relationship, but not for reasons you might think.

6 min read5 days ago

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Unmasking Subtle Signs of Abuse in Male Female Relationships

9 min readJun 6, 2024

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Unmasking Subtle Signs of Abuse in Male Female Relationships

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Will Black Men Ever Forgive Black Women For Doing This

Why are Black men so critical of and cruel to Black women? A well-dressed stranger helped me understand what’s really going on with Black…

8 min readMay 15, 2024

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Modern Women

A Mother’s Quiet Pain and Secret Shame as Her Adult Daughter Drifts Towards Estrangement

“Your silence will not protect you.” — Audre Lorde

11 min readMay 6, 2024

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What If Black Men Are Meant to Redefine What it Means to Be a Man

Who says White men must be the prototype for manhood?

8 min readJun 12, 2024

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You Don’t Have a Village and Other Reasons a Woman Shouldn’t Have Children

Even if you KNOW you want children, this may help you see if you’re ready to accept the radical changes that children inevitably bring.

7 min readMay 30, 2024

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You Don’t Have a Village and Other Reasons a Woman Shouldn’t Have Children

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Sneaky Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

The saboteur is a mechanism in us that activates every time we have an opportunity to empower ourself or someone else, that causes us to…

5 min readApr 28, 2024

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Sneaky Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

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Warning: That Man May Destroy You

What makes one woman, at the first sign of a red flag, walk away…while another woman stays?

6 min readApr 26, 2024

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How to Feel Better about Yourself

You probably know this already, it’s ALL about you.

6 min readApr 23, 2024

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How to Feel Better about Yourself

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DeBora M. Ricks @ Oluchi International

DeBora M. Ricks @ Oluchi International

Self-Love Doula, Expat, Author of Love Addicted, Mom and Attorney daring to give voice to what I love, think and feel, unapologetically.

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