The War on LonelinessThe definitive guide to getting over writer’s block after just two or three years of agonyYesterday I spoke to two authors who were in the throes of writer’s block, albeit in very different situations. One is trying to think of…Jan 7, 2020Jan 7, 2020
The War on LonelinessFor me the hardest thing isn’t making friends, it’s finding intimatesI have two friends whom I regularly speak to on the phone. Like, in real time, using our voices. I am not sure how exactly I developed this…Jun 24, 2019Jun 24, 2019
The War on LonelinessI have to apologize.The problem, I think, was that while I knew a lot about the topic, I didn’t know quite enough. The thing I was missing was the final…Mar 22, 20191Mar 22, 20191
The War on LonelinessWhy did nobody tell me that Vol 6 of the Knausgaard was all about Hitler!Oct 17, 2018Oct 17, 2018
The War on LonelinessThe easiest, and often best, way to make friends is to meet an “includer”Okay, I almost hesitate to write about this topic right now, because I know a lot of you are gonna read it and be like, “What the fuck…May 2, 2017May 2, 2017
The War on LonelinessMaking friends isn’t an easy or mechanical processOkay several weeks ago, I told you I was going to compare finding friendship to a salesperson generating leads. But when I sat down to…Apr 28, 20171Apr 28, 20171
The War on LonelinessHow to get invited to partiesMany self-help books have an essential superficiality that’s revealed in their opening chapters because they go on and on with caveats and…Apr 14, 2017Apr 14, 2017
The War on LonelinessAll self-help, of any kind, should come with this disclaimerA guy I knew in high school had a brain aneurysm at age 19 and dropped dead. He was incredibly smart. Really friendly. Probably had a great…Apr 13, 2017Apr 13, 2017
The War on LonelinessIt’s hard to _try_ to make friends; what’s more productive is to find situations where friendships…Awhile back there was a New York Times article that said, essentially, the key to making friends is “proximity; repeated, unplanned…Apr 12, 20172Apr 12, 20172
The War on LonelinessDon’t listen to all the terrible clickbait friend-making adviceMost clickbait advice is written by people who’ve never actually tried it. Either that, or they’re terribly unobservant. That’s the only…Apr 11, 2017Apr 11, 2017
