This is Why You are Single: Expectations vs Reality
When we hope for a match made up in heaven only to settle for crumbs
I’m pretty sure everyone has tried to envision how their relationship might or should look at one point in life.
We’re all different, therefore, we have different expectations, beliefs, and goals in life.
However, the most common trait is the fact that we aspire for good things, amazing partners, and beautiful journeys in life.
People tend to forget that expectations can be quite different from reality. When it gets too real, some bail while others stick it through.
Well, when it comes to relationships, some get out of touch with reality. We all hope for perfection and fail to acknowledge that each one of us is a work in progress.
If I’m to ask anyone who hopes to find an amazing partner in the competitive dating field, they will list down desirable qualities.
A realist may end up throwing in a few negotiables here and there that they are willing to compromise on. When picking partners, no one wants a rusty kettle.
Everyone wants a shiny trophy to put on their shelf.The badge validates their self-worth and improves their social standing.
What is the relationship between expectations and reality?
Expectations are rough ideations on what should happen while reality is a series of what transpires.
Are expectations wrong in a relationship?
It’s advisable to have high expectations when trying to pursue anything in life. This quality enables you to know and gauge if your partner is meeting your needs in a relationship. Knowing what you want is healthy and saves you from settling.
Make sure your partner ticks all your boxes. Factors such as age, finance, career moves, and beliefs are crucial in determining a successful relationship.
However, certain unreasonable expectations may destroy relationships. Expecting supernatural abilities and traits from your partner may prevent you from forming deep connections with people. It’s wise to give people a chance before writing them off.
For example, expect your partner to splurge money intended for rent on expensive anniversaries or birthdays.
Can we love someone without expectations?
It’s important to communicate and share your dreams and expectations from the get-go. Assuming that your partner is a mind reader who should figure out ways to make you happy or satisfied is inconsiderable. Love is never enough.
Figure out if you are on the same page when it comes to investment options, marriage possibilities, or children. Couples that sweep such information under the carpet end up regretting it later.
Money is the leading cause of divorce. Having uncomfortable conversations prevents serious implications. You may face tough times with your partner. This may either break or save your relationship depending on your commitment.
Avoid being that couple that says “We’ll cross that bridge when we get there”. Remember, there will be no bridge to cross.
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