My Ick is Women Who Mock Their Men on TikTok
It’s amazing how often women talking about their “icks” caused by men crossover with chasing social media clout. Oddly enough, women using TikTok to publicly mock the men who love them for likes and follows is a borderline epidemic at this point.
An infuriating and stupid epidemic, but a social media epidemic nonetheless.
But this has all led to me discovering my first real ick with women. And that’s the idea of secretly taping your partner doing something innocuous, throwing it up online, and using it as fodder for mocking him. If it seems sad and immature, you’re right. Any woman doing this is low value.
The Idiocy of the Ick
Language is changing at an alarming rate thanks to social media. Notice I didn’t use the word “advancing?” That was a very intentional choice on my part because we’re not better off with internet slang being adopted as part of common, everyday conversations.
One such word is “ick.” It’s generally used to describe something that makes you feel an aversion to someone or something. Usually, it’s someone. More often than not, that someone is a woman’s husband, boyfriend, or life partner.
If you look for people talking about icks on social media, it’s frequently women talking about the things men do that turn them off. A few are legit, but most are incredibly stupid things. When I say stupid, it’s truly impossible to wrap your mind around.
I watched a video where a woman talked about a man using turn signals when driving her being an ick. She said it was feminine. Apparently, real men don’t signal lane changes or turns. Ick or not, not using turn signals is both illegal and dangerous. And how is it feminine? I hope this video was faked. If not, I’m sad for humanity.
Marrying Your Icks
There is a huge subset of these ick videos featuring wives or girlfriends mocking the icks of their husbands or boyfriends. Are these serious issues? No, it’s stuff like playing with their kids on the beach or stretching before playing a baseball game.
What’s interesting about this phenomenon is that it’s a lot harder to find TikToks of husbands mocking their wives’ icks. That’s likely because men could not get away with that. If a large group of men secretly taped their wives, secretly uploaded the footage, and mocked them for doing innocuous things, those men would be divorced in minutes.
Husbands and boyfriends are expected to tolerate being crapped on in public because it’s “just a joke.” Is it, though? What’s actually funny about any of this? A guy was stretching before a ball game, which is somehow an ick to his partner. Yay. She posted it and got 14 likes. Validation!
Then there’s the guy whose own wife posted a video of him playing with his kids on the beach. Somehow, being an engaged father is an ick. Where was mom while dad was taking care of the kids? On her butt, taping the whole thing to use in her online mocking festival. 12 likes! You did it!
My New Ick
Thanks to this absurd situation, I have discovered an ick of my own and that’s immature women. Any woman in her 30s or 40s who thinks mocking her life partner for TikTok clout is not someone I want to be around. I don’t want to become fodder for the TikTok ick mill.
Can you imagine being that woman’s husband and finding out that she’s on TikTok, mocking everything about you? It’s one thing if she’s blowing off steam to friends about stupid stuff her husband does in private. Everyone needs that. But taking it online like that is something completely different.
There’s the sense of having your privacy invaded, of not being able to trust the person you love. You’re left wondering how far she’s willing to go to keep the content coming. Inevitably, people will see these videos and make assumptions about him as a man. He becomes a punchline instead of a husband, father, and more
Yeah, men do a lot of dumb things. Some of it is silly. Some of it is horrifying and needs to be called out. But this ick stuff is absolute nonsense. Putting it online is a betrayal of trust in a relationship that should be the most trustworthy and supportive either side has.
