Nobody Wants a Fake Baddie
The breakneck pace language evolves at can be tough for an old dog like me. That being said, I think people are still using the term baddie to describe a certain type of woman. If they’re not, then I’m sure there’s an equivalent term out there you can substitute every time you see baddie.
Regardless of the correct term, the kind of woman it describes has been around for a while. And men just don’t want them. Media sure makes it seem like we do but that’s just not true of most of us. No, we’re looking for something baddies just can’t give us.
What the Hell is a Baddie?
To be completely honest, I had to look this one up the first time I heard the term baddie. It was probably in a music video or something. Regardless, I felt like I couldn’t get away from the word. It wasn’t men using it to describe women, either. It was women using it to describe themselves.
I found a lot of different “definitions” for a baddie online and each one had its own criteria. Most of them were filled with terrible grammar, so I wasn’t sure what they were talking about. Frequently, I ended up looking up other slang terms I didn’t know. Fuck, I’m old.
The common denominators between all of the definitions I found seem to be confident, in control, beautiful, successful, and highly independent. I freely admit that these were the words I recognized and understood, so I likely gravitated to them.
Regardless, these terms appear to represent the general sentiment of what a baddie is. Or at least was. At this point, the term baddie is probably three to four years out of date, yet I keep seeing it in a variety of places. Perhaps it’s just part of the lexicon, now. Perhaps it just won’t go away.
Being a Baddie Isn’t What It Used to Be…
Successful. Confident. Independent. These are all things that women can and should be, however they define them as an individual. In combination or separately, there’s honestly nothing wrong with a woman who exhibits these traits. Honestly, I find that extremely attractive.
The problem is the other side of being a baddie. While the term started off as one of empowerment for women, it has devolved into something more insidious. When people think of a baddie, now, words like selfish, delusional, narcissist, and cheater come to mind.
If you go on any social media platform, the women still calling themselves baddies are definitely not successful, confident, independent, or remotely attractive. They act like they are, which is where the delusional narcissism comes into play. It’s the difference between confidence and arrogance.
These women have applied the term baddie to themselves erroneously and used it to justify terrible behavior. Treating your man like crap? That’s confidence. Cheating on him non-stop? That’s independence. Draining his finances dry to live your life and walking away? That’s successful.
No More Baddies, Boys
There was a time not that long ago when a baddie was exactly what a man should want. Well, an adult man who is confident in himself. I want a woman who is successful, independent, and confident, whatever that all means to her. But that’s not what the term references anymore.
As such, any woman who calls herself a baddie is basically throwing a red flag up for you to see and avoid. A woman who takes pride in calling herself a total baddie is about the same quality of a human being as a man to take pride in calling himself a total douche.
Gentlemen, find the women who embody what being a baddie was meant to be but don’t use that term. I mean, it’s a dated term for one thing. Don’t date people who use dated slang unironically. That’s just a life lesson for everyone when it comes to dating.
Ladies, don’t be baddies. Be awesome. There are men out there who will appreciate you for who you are. I’m not guaranteeing you that they’re all tens but those guys are out there. They are not afraid of being with a woman who is truly confident, successful, and independent. Or, at the very least, a woman who is on her way there.
