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Zoey Trope
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Feb 24

15 years of online dating…

I’m here to roast myself for being on dating apps before Tinder was founded. Periodically, I’ll get a note that there are no profiles left to match me with. I’ve seen where the subway turns around. And it’s not pretty. I would estimate I have gone on 0–20 first dates…

Dating

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15 years of online dating…
15 years of online dating…
Dating

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Dec 16, 2022

A Spreadsheet for Non-Monogamous Dating

AKA the power rankings of all my lovers i love, the lovers i used to love, and the lovers i don’t have to love — I was inspired to create my own “dating spreadsheet” inspired by Chin Hua Lu’s. Her template tracks and rates dates with the objective of finding a monogamous partner. I wanted to create one that serves my needs as a polyamorous person dating with the objective of finding multiple lovers.

Dating

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A Spreadsheet for Non-Monogamous Dating
A Spreadsheet for Non-Monogamous Dating
Dating

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Dec 10, 2020

The Ultimate Gift Guide for Your Polycule

Even if gift-giving isn’t your love language, here are a list of the best things for everyone in your polycule. Note: If this is helpful at all, please consider signing up and making your purchases via this thing that I still call ebates. For the service provider darling in your…

Polyamory

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The Ultimate Gift Guide for Your Polycule
The Ultimate Gift Guide for Your Polycule
Polyamory

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Published in sad girl polyamory

·Mar 5, 2020

She’s Not Me

An ode to the uncomplicated woman I will never be. — It’s been 20 years of loathing all the Ians and Lilys of my life. It’s always embarrassing when I go down this rabbit hole of finding out who this fucking Ian or Lily is. Ian/Lily of course being an ex’s new partner. I glob on to whatever information I can…

Relationships

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She’s Not Me: An ode to the uncomplicated woman I will never be
She’s Not Me: An ode to the uncomplicated woman I will never be
Relationships

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Published in sad girl polyamory

·Oct 4, 2019

Polyamory Insights: Relationship Transitions and Negotiating Breakups

When I was going through my divorce, I had a lot of grief to process. It manifested in my writing which became quite dark. My anger was mixed with sadness and I spent most of last year wallowing in it, too afraid of letting it go because that would force…

Relationships

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Relationships

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Published in sad girl polyamory

·Aug 20, 2018

polyamory and breakups: a relationship post-mortem

And how breakups will be always be a common denominator between polyamorous and monogamous folks — A lot of polyam people use the word “de-escalate” to describe how we transition out of a relationship. I have many gripes about this and all the terminology used to force a differentiation from monogamy when we should be connecting what we have in common. Like how fucking terrible break-ups…

Polyamory

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Polyamory

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Published in sad girl polyamory

·Jul 7, 2017

Reliving Past Lives

Avoiding remnants of our relationship while passing through the JetBlue terminal at SFO — In 2009, I was in love for the first time and we were physically separated for a week or so. I wrote him a love letter every day and at the risk of being too needy, only sent a handful postmarked San Francisco. I also wrote to my best friend…

San Francisco

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Reliving Past Lives
Reliving Past Lives
San Francisco

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Published in sad girl polyamory

·Jan 29, 2017

The worst kind of polyamory is no polyamory at all

Losing couple privilege and embracing solo polyamory — “Now you can say you tried everything.” No, I did not “try” polyamory to save my marriage. It’s not an ingredient I found in the ethnic food aisle of the grocery store that I am experimenting with. I started an open relationship. It was great for a while and when it started sucking, it continued to suck…

Polyamory

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The worst kind of polyamory is no polyamory at all
The worst kind of polyamory is no polyamory at all
Polyamory

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Published in sad girl polyamory

·Jan 10, 2017

I never wanted to be a wife, now I’m going to be an ex-wife

… and the latest villain in his story — “Just listen to this album.” He plugged in his 1st Generation iPod and played Beck’s Sea Change. “It’s the most heartbreaking record.” And he was right. The soft vocals pulled at my heart strings. We were in a parking lot with nowhere else to go for the night. That’s when…

Relationships

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I never wanted to be a wife, now I’m going to be an ex-wife
I never wanted to be a wife, now I’m going to be an ex-wife
Relationships

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Published in sad girl polyamory

·Dec 29, 2016

Single-ish

My relationship status just got more complicated than “married and dating.” — It’s raining in Los Angeles which means large insects are coming up the pipes of my home. I douse one to death with a spray bottle of tea tree oil, the same one I use to spray down my yoga mat. Then it hit me. …

Polyamory

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Single-ish
Single-ish
Polyamory

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Zoey Trope

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navigating polyamory, bdsm, and community. More: http://zoeytrope.com

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