“He’s Going to Hit Me” — My Intuitive Self Knew, but My Emotional Self Refused to Believe It

Spiritual Abuse: The “Jezebel Spirit” Accusation

My daughters’ births helped me to leave their abusive father

Why The Church Won’t Recognize Abuse

As a therapist and advocate who specializes in recovery from abuse, I have been witness to many stories of how survivors were treated by their church elders and pastors. I can tell you that some church leadership understands the complexities of domestic abuse, but…

Spiritual Abuse

My counseling business name is Southlake Christian Counseling. As you can imagine, I get all sorts of inquiries about what exactly the Christian part of my business really means. People wonder, and often worry that they are going to get yet another heavy dose of religious guilt by seeing a counselor…

Believing “He’s a good man” is telling him “Hurt me more”

Falling in love taught me to love myself

Over the past few months, I have spoken alot about dating and relationships with my…

Cheating on my abusive ex saved my life

I find cheating more or less unforgivable. Exes have cheated on me, and the poisonous mixture of self-doubt, jealousy, and heartbreak your mind cooks up for you in return is excruciating. It’s not something I’ll ever really be on board with, and if anyone ever…

Love-bombed & lonely

“I love you” he sobbed.

You are your own knight in shining armour

Are you waiting for someone to come save you? I was. And…