Trauma Bonding Is the Drug That Makes Abuse Feel Like Love
Under the influence of the narcissist
“Why did you stay in an abusive relationship for so long?”
Recently, questions related to “how I was swayed, and why I stayed” have been under heavy scrutiny — by myself and by others — and the query continues to boggle me.
Far from straightforward, the answers are multifaceted and obscure. On my path towards enlightenment, I’ve examined the irresistible allure of the narcissist, their weird, conceited ways, as well as the typical traits of the narcissist’s ideal partner.
Still, something’s missing.
“Something’s missing!”
I recently confessed this to my closest friend, Morgan, who’s also healing from the aftermath of a toxic marriage.
I was telling her about my current romantic relationship, which happens to be the healthiest I’ve ever been in. Nowadays, obscure word salads, guessing games, and gaslighting are replaced by clear and compassionate communication, and, instead of pain, confusion, and manipulative behavior, there’s mutual care, healing and a sense of safety.
It’s like night and day!
