FVS 32: HOW TO BE A HAPPY COUPLE
Hi there,
Here is your weekly For Value Sake, contributing value to your growth.
A Quote Worth Thinking About
“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
― Abraham Lincoln
+ Read past editions of For Value Sake: 31, 30, and All,
1. THE MINDSET HAPPY COUPLES HAVE IN COMMON
+ The psychologists found that a significant factor in determining the couple’s relationship satisfaction over time was something called an attribution pattern.
+ attribution pattern is the overall trend in the way we choose to interpret our partner’s behaviour.
+ Couples who strive to judge each other benevolently — interpreting each other’s good behaviour as deliberate and habitual, and each other’s transgressions as accidental and limited (wherever possible and sensible) — are more likely to be satisfied in their relationships overall.
+ If your partner does something which upsets you, there are several ways you can interpret their behaviour. You could attribute it to internal or external causes.
+ Sometimes, we are so focused on the one mistake our partner made, or the one time they forgot to do something we wanted them to do, that we fail to remember the countless other times they showed us love and consideration.
+ The success of your relationship often depends on the interpretation you choose!
TL;DR
Your Perception is everything.
You can decide to be a half empty or half full kinda person, whichever one you are will determine the quality of your relationship.
Read Now (Open In-Private Mode/Incognito)
2. THE DARK SIDE OF BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER
+ I had become a giver. It wasn’t out of selflessness. I gave because I wanted something in return.
+ She said that in every relationship there is a gardener and a flower. The gardeners get their joy from tending to the garden. They give the flowers water and sunlight. Their joy comes in see their effort help the flowers to bloom. The flowers know this. So the flowers put their energy into blooming as greatly as they can to give the gardeners that joy.
3. WAKING UP BY 6AM WON’T MAKE YOU SUCCESSFUL
+ Everyone has different peak hours. If you want to enhance your productivity, it doesn’t matter whether you’re a morning person or a night owl, or if you go for a run at 6 am or 6 pm.
+ Tackling the most important, most strategic work during my prime time enables me to stay motivated, make steady progress, and avoid feeling overwhelmed.
+ Your peak hours area a priceless currency. Draw clear boundaries and protect them however you can.
Use that time for your toughest, most creative, or most brain-intensive tasks.
4. WATCH AND LEARN (a TED talk)
+ How to Speak so People want to listen — Julian Treasure
Watch Now
5. WHAT IM READING
+ The Power of Positive Thinking, by Norman Vincent Peale
+ Dr Peale demonstrates the power of faith in action. With the practical techniques outlined in this book, you can energize your life — and give yourself the initiative needed to carry out your ambitions and hopes. You’ll learn how to:
· Believe in yourself and in everything you do
· Build new power and determination
· Develop the power to reach your goals
· Break the worry habit and achieve a relaxed life
· Improve your personal and professional relationships
· Assume control over your circumstances
· Be kind to yourself
Get a copy of all the books I’ve read and shared on FVS here.
6. GET A FREE GENETIC TEST
+ Your DNA is unique to you.
Understanding your genes can lead to unlocking insights that improve your health and life.
54gene offers genetic testing for Africans.
They are currently giving out free reports.
So let your genes tell you what kind of diseases you are susceptible to so you can prevent them
GRAB a spot to get a free report
