FVS 37: How To Achieve Personal Growth
Here is your weekly For Value Sake, contributing value to your growth.
A weekly post, it contains a few articles, a book recommendation and a TED talk.
These are the most impressionable resources I consumed during the week, and share them so you can reap some value as I did.
A Quote Worth Thinking About
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself” — Rumi
+ Read past editions of For Value Sake: 36, 35, and All,
1. ARTICLES WORTH READING
personal development
I. How To Achieve Personal Growth (Without Giving Up Everything In The Process)
+ “Raise your hand if you’ve tried self-improvement and failed at it”
+”I think we have a right to change course. But society is the one that keeps demanding that we fit in and not disturb things. They would like you to fit in right away so that things work now. — Anaïs Nin”
+ “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you?
Not much. — Jim Rohn”
+”Expectation reduces the amount of thought we have to put into interactions.”
+ “If you try to change yourself, you’ll find no shortage of people nudging you back into a place that feels comfortable for them.”
+ Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved. — Roy T. Bennett”
+ “Self-improvement is Michelangelo carefully cutting away all that’s inessential to reveal the glory of his David. It’s about finding the core of your self by discarding what no longer works and then living in accordance with your truth.”
+ “Better to endure breaking down in the chrysalis and emerge a butterfly than refuse growth and stay a caterpillar forever.”
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wealth development
II. Setting Up Different Funds (Saving like a boss)
+”A fund is simply an amount of money saved and made available for a specific or particular purpose.”
+ “Emergency Fund
Reserve Fund
Education Fund
Investment Fund
Pension Fund”
Sometimes one of the reasons we save and then eat our savings is because there’s really no longterm important reason for our saving.
This piece introduces the idea of having diverse goals for savings.
relationship dev.
III. Why He Chose Her Instead of You
+ “Stop being second rate and ignoring red flags”
+ “When someone doesn’t want you, it’s rarely a surprise. We usually know it but decide to stay in the relationship banking on the person’s potential and plausible deniability, rather than accept we aren’t a good match.”
+ “Don’t let someone decide if they can “keep” you. Isn’t that what you do with a pet? “Can we keep this stray dog?”
+”A good way to know if a man is co-dependent is to look at his relationship history. If he says he isn’t good at being by himself or has never gone without being in a relationship, he’s co-dependent.”
This puts together an idea on how to think about mutuality in a romantic attraction.
Maintain the right kind of balance in terms of expectation.
Don’t go overboard because you want what the other party doesn’t want.
Know the right place to draw the line with your eyes open.
Practical Read.
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entrepreneurship
IV. One out of every 11,600 people in San Francisco is a billionaire
+ “If you want to run into a celebrity, you go to Hollywood. If you want to run into a billionaire, you should move to San Francisco.”
+ “56 percent of billionaires are self-made — meaning that their money primarily did not come from a hefty inheritance.”
+ “Billionaires are, in general, old. The average age is just over 65. And while the young might be rich in Silicon Valley, only about 10 percent of global billionaires are under the age of 50. And they are extremely disproportionately male — 88 percent of the world’s billionaires are men.”
+” …the top hobby for these billionaires is philanthropy”
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2. VIDEO WORTH READING
+ How Twitter Needs to Change | Jack Dorsey (CEO)
+” We’ve seen abuse, we’ve seen harassment, we’ve seen manipulation, automation, human coordination, misinformation. So these are all dynamics that we were not expecting 13 years ago when we were starting the company. But we do now see them at scale, and what worries me most is just our ability to address it in a systemic way that is scalable, that has a rigorous understanding of how we’re taking action, a transparent understanding of how we’re taking action and a rigorous appeals process for when we’re wrong, because we will be wrong.”
Fun watch!
3. WHAT IM READING
+ Meditations, by Marcus Aurelius
Meditations is a series of personal writings by Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor 161–180 CE, setting forth his ideas on Stoic philosophy.
Marcus Aurelius wrote the 12 books of the Meditations as a source for his own guidance and self-improvement.
His stoic ideas often involve avoiding indulgence in sensory affections, a skill which, he says, will free a man from the pains and pleasures of the material world. He claims that the only way a man can be harmed by others is to allow his reaction to overpower him. An order or logos permeates existence. Rationality and clear-mindedness allow one to live in harmony with the logos.
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