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Talking to your loved ones about End of Life decisions

Haje Jan Kamps
May 1, 2017 · 8 min read

The final step is the hardest, but also the most important. You need to talk to your loved ones about what your wishes are.

Your wishes, your health proxies, your conversation.

What is an advance healthcare directive?

What your family and loved ones need to know.

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It’s important to tell your friends and family that you’ve thought about what your wishes are.

Topic 1: “I have an advance healthcare directive”

Topic 2: “These are my health proxies”

Make sure your close friends and family know who your proxies are.

Topic 3: “This is what ‘quality of life’ means to me.”

Remember that this is not a discussion. Your goal isn’t to change their mind, but to explain what you want.

Topic 4: “My thoughts on life support”

To your loved ones, this is a stressful and emotional moment. It is important that your health proxy knows what you want.

Topic 5: What did you hear?

In conclusion

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Talking about end of life can be scary. In our experience, it is also an intimate topic that drives people closer together. Don’t be afraid: Jump in with both feet.

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