I’m learning to be patient. It was never a strength.
I am Aditya. I am the founder and sole employee of Roundhop Inc. If you’ve read my previous blog, I explain how my friend and I got fed up with online dating as it is now. We decided there had to be a better approach to dating than profiles and algorithms.
The city street was as wet as her face. Streaks of color from the lights of the bar reflected in the slick asphalt. Thin rivers of mascara snaked down her cheeks, lightly freckled from many summers in the sun as a girl.
You know the shit your friends say (or the shit you say) when something doesn’t work out with someone?
“Man, she’s a bitch.”
“What a trainwreck.”
I had not one but two girlfriends, back in my wilder days, who chose to love me when I was having an wicked bad acne outbreak in my mid-20s.
Who gets acne in their mid-20s? I thought. Me. Lucky fucking me. I realize that it was me and many other…
If you’re asking yourself the question, you probably are.
Welcome to the awesomeness. Welcome to no limits. Welcome to unlimited access to more people, more opportunities, more LOVE than you knew before.
Online dating is sold to you as the easiest thing in the world. Is it, though?
Join the app. Create a profile. Get your matches sent to your inbox. Bam! More dates than you know what to do with.
Whatever you do, try not to panic.
Because it feels so weird. Incredibly uncomfortable.
It is suddenly there in your throat, or your gut, that feeling that people talk about…they make it sound so easy.
I seriously felt it break apart in my chest — that thing I called a heart. Not because the love was ever really that deep(ly shared) but because it became so clear that it never had been at all. It was humbling and horrible to admit.