As a Single Woman in Mid 30s, This is What I Want to Tell the World

We are not on partner hunt every day. Yes, you heard it right…..

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Being a subscriber of Ashley J.J. White, I got a notification of her recent article i.e. “May Roundup” where she has mentioned ten of her most favorite stories on Medium in May. All the stories mentioned in her article are amazing and one of a kind. However, one that touched deepest corners of my heart is “Wisdom for Women in their 30s” by Natasha Nichole Lake.

According to Natasha Nichole Lake the internet believes that women in their 30s don’t need advice, all they need is a husband or a cat and I couldn’t agree more.

In addition to all the valid points and concerns raised by Natasha, I would like to share the most unsettling things I have faced as a single woman, in mid 30s, living in an Asian country, and I know a lot of other women shall be able to relate:-

1. People automatically think that you are depressed and lonely and the only purpose of your life is to find a Prince who will come and complete your identity.
2. You are presumed to be jealous of happy couples.
3. Husbands and in-laws of your married friends blame you for their fights even if you have no idea what is going on in their lives. (Yes, been there)
4. Afraid of being perceived as jealous, you can’t tell your girlfriends about the red flags in their relationship, because God forbid, if anything bad happens, all blame shall be shifted on you.
5. Your friends assume that you just pretend to be busy, because after all you are single. What on earth could be keeping you busy?
6. Everyone, literally everyone who meets you, even for the first time, asks you about your marital status and gives you either a comforting or a snarky response when you tell them you are single.
7. People who have known you for years start sympathizing with you for being single. (I don’t doubt their intentions, but to be honest, this behavior is totally uncalled for)
8. You are blamed for having standards way too high, because why else would you be single till now?
9. Your relatives and other people in your circle start blaming your family and start questioning their intentions about your life.
10. Judgmental and insensitive comments in all the gatherings start affecting your family, especially parents and as a consequence, they start pressuring you to marry as soon as possible.

On the contrary, I want to bring following facts to the attention of the world from perspective of single women in their Mid 30s:-

1. Many of us are not even thinking about marriage, this is not our goal.
2. We have so many other things on our plate and WE ARE NOT obliged to explain our reasons to you.
3. We are happy with our lives and have so much more to achieve. We don’t need your sympathies.
4. We LOVEEEEE happy couples, some of us are fond of successful love stories.
5. WE NEITHER HATE MEN NOR LOVE. Yes, you heard it right.

In the end my message to all the single clad, enjoy life and have fun as much as you can. If you would like to share the things you are grateful for, go check this Article by Sahil Patel and share your thoughts.

Tag me in your articles if you want to share about your experience as a single woman in mid 30s and the things you are grateful for. Happy Reading and Writing :)

I intend to write the next article about “What love means to me as a single woman in mid 30s”. Let me know your thoughts about it. Would you like to read it?