“See-Finish”: The Lingo That Will Raise Your Street Value
The more common you are, the less valuable you are.
I grew up in a multi-culture, multi-language, multi-annoying country.
On the one hand, it has been years since Nigeria gained independence from the colonizers and became one country. On the other hand, we still have not figured out how to co-exist happily.
What we have figured out perfectly- is how to use language, especially in the fewest combinations, to say very impactful and unforgettable things.
Usually, very insulting things.
One of the newer lingo is “See-Finish.”
Don’t waste your time with Google. Let me help you.
See-Finish is simply a way of saying that you are nothing. You are just a common item to someone.
- Example 1
Someone getting so comfortable in their interaction with you that they find it easy to insult you. “Oh shut up, Amina. You are just stupid.”
And they laugh. Even more hurtful, they expect YOU to laugh with them—at their insult of you.
- Example 2
Your boyfriend who could not go two minutes without calling you two weeks ago is now the same person telling you, “Do whatever you feel like, I don’t care.”
- Example 3
You returned home after a long time away to cheers and special treatment from your parents. Now they are greeting you with, “Why are you still in bed at 8 am? You have always been lazy.”
Simply put, your ‘specialness’ is gone, and now you are being treated with the contempt left only for those who have been ‘seen-finish’.
See-Finish: we have seen all there is to you, and now you are just wood.
See-Finish: you better find your value or it just gets worse from here.
See-Finish: get away from you, you common household object.
When you are suffering from see-finish, your best bet is to just move on, even if temporarily.
I love the succinctness of “See-finish.” Once you hear it, you can evaluate your life to know the places where you have no boundary, no leverage, no power and places where you are ashamed of yourself.
Don’t cry. See-finish helps you be better with yourself.
One of the reasons my abuser successfully dealt with me was because I had enabled him to make me think I really was nothing. I could not exist outside of him. I was too invested in him and leaving was stupid.
What do you do when you are already nothing? When you have been ‘seen-finish?’
If I can help you out, I want to say:
When you are down and out, it really doesn’t matter then where you go or what you do next. Does it really?
No.
Everyone has counted you out. The battle is over. You can choose to be a fool forever… you can choose to remain a fool forever.
Or,
‘See-Finish’: You can choose to stay away and quietly (re)build the life you can be proud of.
At different points in life, someone will ‘see’ you ‘finish’. It is just life.
What is important, though, is that you remember you always have worth. You always have value. You always get to choose if you stay or leave.
‘See-Finish’ is not the end. In its own way, it is a warning to you: You have overstayed your welcome here. It is time to move forward.
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