Resources, Timeline, and Final Words from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process
This is the final blog post for this formal accountability process.
I am writing this post in the first person and speaking in “I statements” to mark my own responsibility and to be clear that I am not speaking for other people. I can only speak from my own experience about this accountability process. One thing that I’ve learned is that an accountability process is inherently personal, and that some of the things that worked for me may not work for others.
This post is the long form wrap-up post of a year-long process. Because of its length, there is a table of contents to help and guide readers.
Anyone is free to adapt the information shared here for their own process in their communities. If you would like to attribute anything here please attribute it to Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Blog and not myself. Far too many people, behind the scenes and out in front, contributed to what you are reading for any of this to be attributed to one person.
Table of Contents
- Final Thoughts and Acknowledgments
- Intention for the Remainder of this Post
- Contacting Reid’s Pod
- Complete Blog Posts For This Accountability Process
- If You Could Only Read 3 Posts Besides This One
- Read/Watch/Listen Resource List
- Ideas on Finding a Therapist
- Accountability Process Timelines and Tracking List
- Abbreviated Timeline for Jan 2018-April 2019
Final Thoughts and Acknowledgments
Ending this accountability process is hard. I am struggling with this post. I’m trying to do all the things at once, tie up every loose end, and hit all the right notes, which means I’m terrified and don’t know how to proceed.
I know I want to “get it perfect” so everyone will feel good about this process and I can go back to living my life and trying to change the world. But this won’t be perfect and not everyone will feel good about this process, and I’m not sure how much the world really got changed here. I know I’ve changed, but I’m still struggling, which reminds me of how I struggled a year ago when this all began, which has me worrying that I haven’t learned anything at all.
It’s supposed to get easier the more you work on something, yes? But accountability and interrogating one’s privileges through the lens of systemic oppression doesn’t seem to work that way. At least not for me. At least not this year. It’s like struggling in some sort of invisible quicksand. I can’t always see it, but I know it’s there, because I feel exhausted and I want to quit. I know I’ve gotten stronger and more resilient, because I can stay afloat in these complex feelings and concepts longer now than I could last January, and I don’t want to quit as often these days, but the struggle remains. There are things I can’t ever know or truly understand. This is one of them and I hate that.
I am so confused with pieces of this process and have so many conflicting messages. It is interesting to be put in what feels like a double bind and it’s my task to figure a third way out. There seems to be no perfect response that I can make broadly to my community as this process comes to a close.
When I’ve tried to share in previous posts how this process was impacting me, some people rightly said that I was making this process *about* me rather than centering survivors. On the other hand, many people watching this process told me my posts felt sterile and emotionless, and that they wanted to see updates of my inner workings, feelings, and thoughts. Though I understand that, it’s still confusing to figure how to appropriately respond.
I don’t know how to share those inner workings publicly without de-centering those impacted.
As Heather Elizabeth wrote on behalf of my accountability pod, “this process shifted away from a restorative process with a particular person and into a wider community accountability process rooted in transformative justice.” This shift meant I could share more about what I was learning and struggling with. However, I still needed to be cautious of making this about me, or letting it slide into, what Cassandra J Perry in my pod warned as “performative emoting (which can be interpreted as manipulative).”
How do you share your truth and avoid causing collateral harm? is still something I’m struggling with. I would catch myself having the erroneous feeling that those more marginalized than me somehow knew all the invisible secrets to achieving the harmless living of one’s truth. The truth is: marginalization doesn’t bestow benefits. What I was feeling was a desire for a perfect check-list for never causing harm. What I’ve learned is: There is no list. We all cause harm and none of us can guarantee that we will never do harm again. As Alex S. Morgan wrote in one blog update, “…there is no truly risk-free way to engage with other humans, but a lot of room for useful risk reduction.”
And even with risk reduction, I will create harm. I will make mistakes.
The key is what do you do when someone points out you harmed them? Do you deny? Do you retaliate? Do you minimize? As Bear S Bergman has said, “It’s not what you did. It’s what you do next.”
And I hope that this process, which did get off to a rocky start, has done more good now than collateral damage. From the get-go, I wasn’t interested in adding to the list of men who deny, retaliate, or minimize the harms they’re being invited to hold themselves accountable for. I wanted people to say what they hadn’t been saying, and I wanted to step up. So I stepped up, and I tripped and stumbled and, with help, I found some semblance of balance as my pod and I initiated a restorative justice process.
Throughout this process, I worried that I was missing things or that my efforts wouldn’t be enough for my community to feel I’d taken my process seriously. Where I couldn’t find answers to something, I worried that I wasn’t learning fast enough or was completely failing. My support pod helped me consider that the answer I was looking for might not be a black or white solution, but rather a grey and nebulous one. My privileged outlook demanded a “one size fits all” answer, but I slowly grasped the idea my pod was encouraging I try on, which was feeling into my emotional body where the answers are complex and shifting. I needed to consider that any good answer would come out of letting those more marginalized take the lead, and to give those interactions more time than less.
I wanted to use this accountability process as an opportunity to learn “all of it” so I could get everything right and achieve some sort of flawless discernment so that I would never harm again. But my support pod helped me see that wanting “everyone to be pleased with me” and “always get it right” were also traps. My therapist and pod advised me that I need to stop trying to make everyone happy. As Cassandra wrote in one blog update, “…it’s impossible to please everyone all the time and [Reid] attempting to do so has caused harm.” I begrudgingly remind myself of how right they are. I need to focus not on being perfect but endeavoring to learn and grow so I can, as Angel Adeyoha says, “fuck up better.”
However, my personal Catch-22 with that is if I’m not trying 100% to make everyone safe and happy, then I’m being irresponsible. I’m afraid that any misstep or not taking into full account how my perceived power is impacting someone’s ability to consent is irresponsible. And being irresponsible is the slippery slope to becoming a monster.
There are a lot of Catch-22s throughout my process.
I would like to thank the ~20 individuals who contributed to the anonymous reporting stories collection, and to the survivor support pod for making that process safe, affirming, and private, and to Aida Manduley and Sarah Sloane, especially, for their extensive labor that went into creating the data analysis.
I would also like to thank the individuals I had 1-on-1 conversations with, those who shared their stories with me on Facebook threads, and the woman who came forward first. While what you all had to tell me was often difficult to receive, I cannot express enough how life-changing and important your stories were and still are to me.
And I must thank the members of my accountability pod, Alex Morgan, Angel Adeyoha, Cassandra J Perry, and Heather Elizabeth, as well as my therapist for the generous amount of time, focus, and support they each gave me this year in exchange for what amounts to very little compensation.
It only takes a moment to tear down years of trust, and I hope this process and what I shared has allowed me to clear some of the rubble and create conditions for me to rebuild trust with my community. And I hope this process and my actions moving forward gives you evidence that I have heard you, I am deeply sorry for the mistakes and pain I caused you, I am committed to doing better, and I will welcome your contributions and feedback in the future.
The information and behavior pattern recognition that my pod and therapist helped me process pointed to the areas of self-work I needed to focus on. My harmful behaviors stemmed mainly from my insufficient understanding of how power dynamics and privilege, intersectionality, socialization and systemic oppression affect why and how people give and gain consent. And how my focus on explicit verbal communication did not take into adequate consideration how people use non-verbal communication, code-switching, and soft-nos to communicate their wants as well as avoid negative outcomes.
My pod and therapist helped me integrate what I was learning into concrete commitments to demonstrate my new understandings of these complex dynamics.
For people raised to fear powerful men, especially white men, as my career, popularity, and influence grew, there was more reason for people to fear me. If you didn’t hear any bad things about me, was that because I was powerful enough to scare people into silence? Or was it because I was so good at deception and lies that I hadn’t been caught yet? My obliviousness to such dynamics made things worse.
The next step of this formalized process is reintegration. I hope these blog posts and the two pods ending of this process demonstrate that I’ve made enough progress to avoid causing similar harms in the future, and that I’ve grown enough to become a safer person for my community to be around.
I bear the bulk of the responsibility for the reintegration process. But the community is a part of this as well. How I reintegrate back into public life, community life, and my career means each of you has the choice to look back a year ago thru to today, look at what’s collected here in this blog and resources, and ask yourself if you believe anything with me has transformed. Maybe your answer is “nope,” and I accept that. Maybe your answer is that I should never teach again, and that’s your prerogative. But if you feel like something has shifted, I invite you to let me know how I can repair trust with you if that’s something you’re interested in.
And, here’s something I hadn’t thought of until my therapist and pod explained it to me, and that I’m scared to share: I reserve the right to have boundaries, to say no thank you, and to not immediately try to make anyone happy.
Some people will be upset at me for this post, for this process ending, and for me wanting to go back to teaching, but if we can’t share information that can help other people avoid causing harm, what’s the fucking point?
So the best I can think of is to share some of my final thoughts, share resources, and hope I’m learning how to be more of the change I want to see in the world because this whole damn system is broken. At the end of the day, I’m going to keep on trying my damnedest to leave the campsite better than I found it, and keep on trying to be a better man. And that’s it.
This is the final blog post for this formal accountability process. If you have questions or thoughts, I welcome you reaching out. I’ve laid out some resources below. I hope they help.
Intention for the Remainder of this Post
In my accountability pod’s signing-off post, they laid out the closing actions of this formal accountability process. Since the last post on this blog will likely be the post many new readers come upon first, my intentions for the rest of this post are:
- Encourage those not familiar with restorative and transformative justice (RJ/TJ) and accountability approaches to seek out further resources.
- Show an overview glimpse of what transpired during this process.
- Encourage readers to review previous posts on this blog so they may draw their own conclusions as to whether this process was successful or not, and whether I was accountable for my actions.
- Encourage readers to share these resources.
- Provide readers with resources so they may consider adopting RJ/TJ approaches when addressing harm and accountability in their communities and social circles.
For those of you who have been following along during this accountability process, thank you for getting this far.
To summarize any accountability process, by its very nature, will be imperfect and incomplete. There are too many moving parts and too many people working behind and in front of the scenes in RJ/TJ and accountability processes to successfully give a nuanced picture of it all.
While my pod and I relied on the values and foundations of RJ/TJ, my process couldn’t be a RJ process because it lacked the participation of some of those harmed. Without their participation, it would be unlikely for them to feel restored or healed by this process; hence, my process, as of this posting, has missed fulfilling on its restorative intention.
As my pod expressed in their previous post, “this process has shifted away from a restorative process with a particular person and into a wider community accountability process rooted in transformative justice.” I hope seeing the broad strokes of these last twelve months will help others draw their own conclusions about this process. I also hope this blog helps people (especially transgressors) see ways that an accountability process might be applied in their lives and communities to address harm and foster healthier interactions and relationships.
While my pod and I have done our best to be diligent, the timelines are bound to leave out steps and miss important contributions by individuals. The resource list is also going to be incomplete. I apologize in advance and ask that you see everything here as resources for you and others to build on. My pod and I made mistakes during this process and there were things that we’d do differently. This blog is not an end-all-be-all “how to” guide or map because accountability is not a check-list or destination. It’s a daily practice that is filled with discovery and deep, sometimes slow work. The point is to show up and remain as open as you can. And to not do it alone.
I hope these resources encourage others to step up, reach out for support, and take responsibility for their actions. May that stepping up become contagious in ways that bring more peace, healing, and less harm into our world and communities.
I was not born knowing how to be accountable. I wasn’t raised in a society that teaches men how to be accountable. Accountability must be learned, and my experience has been that it’s not a “Google fucking exists” kind of learning. I needed support and guidance so I could strengthen and deepen my abilities to hold myself to account for my actions and the impacts of those actions. I was lucky enough to be surrounded by qualified, compassionate people who chose to support me.
To me, accountability seems like a group of muscles that get stronger and more deft the more I exercise them. I will continue to strengthen them and hope that these approaches become reflexive and second nature. And I will try my best to encourage rather than shame folks who are not already strong or deft in these practices. We all have to start somewhere, and once we start, our growing, learning, and unlearning never ends.
It is my hope that these posts and this process inspire and make it easier for others to step forward to take responsibility and effective action towards accountability that reduces future harm, aides in making amends to those they’ve harmed, and builds healthier, more just communities.
Contacting Reid’s Pod
The email for Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod is rmpod2018@gmail.com. This email will be checked regularly by members of the Pod and we thank you for your patience in advance. I will not have access to this email account and all communications will be held as confidential unless otherwise indicated by the sender.
Complete Blog Posts For This Accountability Process
Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod blog posts
2018
February 28 — Updates on my accountability work & structures for transparency…
March 23 — Website Updated To Reflect My Accountability Process
April 3 — Updates from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod
May 1 — 2018 Sex Geek Summer Camp Announcement and Overview…
May 3 — Town Hall Reflections from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod
July 3 — Where I’m at Currently in my Accountability Process
August 13 — Accountability Pod Updates and Reflections on Direct Work with Reid
August 20 — Reid’s New Commitments Moving Forward
September 3 — Reid Mihalko Accountability Pod’s Next Steps in Winding Down
September 4 — My Plan for Reintegrating and Rebuilding Trust With My Community
December 25 — Final Posting from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod
2019
January 24 — Resources, Timeline, and Final Words from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process
The RM Survivor Support Pod blog posts
2018
June 28 — Survivor Support Pod for Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process: History & Functioning
2019
Feb 22—Formal Wrap-Up Post from Survivors Pod
If You Could Only Read 3 Posts Besides This One
Not everyone is going to have the luxury of reading all 15 blog posts listed above. If you are short on time, I recommend you finish reading this post, then these three:
The Survivor Support Pod’s Story Collection Overview and Analysis
Where I’m at Currently in my Accountability Process
My Plan for Reintegrating and Rebuilding Trust With My Community
[I would also recommend reading the Survivors Pod’s 3rd post, published after this post went live.]
Read/Watch/Listen Resource List
No one can be accountable merely by consuming a handful of articles or videos. However, these resources helped me tremendously, and so I pass them on to you and yours.
I compiled this short list from the much longer Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process Resource List. For the list below, I imagined the reader being a newcomer to restorative justice and accountability, perhaps someone recently called out, a person wrestling with concepts of responsibility, harm, privilege, and amends-making.
I chose resources across several learning styles that I thought would speak to newcomers. Please encourage the people in your communities to start with the learning styles they are drawn to. I found it easier to lean into my preferred learning styles when I was wrestling with tough concepts and emotions and had a large community of colleagues and strangers offering me feedback. May this list act as a stepping stone for diving deeper.
Read:
Ijeoma Oluo — In The Midst Of #Metoo, What Type Of Man Do You Want To Be?Lili Loofbourow — The Female Price Of Male Pleasure
Adrienne Maree Brown — What is/isn’t transformative justice?
Mahealani Joy—Here’s Why We Need Restorative Justice As an Option for Dealing with Abuse
Gibran Rivera — Transformative Justice
Anne Victoria Clark — The Rock Test: A Hack for Men Who Don’t Want To Be Accused of Sexual Harassment
Jamie Utt — How To Talk About Privilege To Someone Who Doesn’t Know What That Is
Caroline Framke — Most harassment apologies are just damage control. Dan Harmon’s was a self-reckoning.
Watch:
Pop Culture Detective — The Adorkable Misogynists
Pop Culture Detective — The Complicity of Geek Masculinity on the Big Bang Theory
Blue Seat Studios — Victim Blaming Metaphor
Trevor Noah — The Daily Show’s Between the Scenes: Trump Weaponizes Victimhood to Defend Kavanaugh
Listen:
Sex Gets Real podcast — Ep 221: Andy Izenson on alternative justice, resilient relationships, & masculinity
Dear Sugars podcast — Consent Part 1 — With Jaclyn Friedman
You Are Not So Smart podcast — How Our Unchecked Tribal Psychology Pollutes Politics, Science, And Just About Everything Else
With Friends Like These podcast — When Ideology Is Identity With Lilliana Mason
Ideas on Finding a Therapist
As a part of my accountability agreements, my pod asked me to find a therapist for weekly sessions and support throughout the formal accountability process. Having weekly meetings with a therapist was invaluable during my process, and I found it challenging to find a therapist at first. To help others, HERE is a brief outline of the advice I was given which helped me secure professional support.
Accountability Process Timelines and Tracking List
The embedded link above jumps to TimeToast.com’s Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process Abbreviated Timeline, which is an abbreviated version of the major actions and events that transpired during my accountability process spanning the 12-months from Jan 2018 thru Jan 2019. These timeline points, listed below, can also be found in the Google Doc, Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process Major Abbreviated Timeline.
If you would like to see a longer text timeline with more entries, see Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process Timeline Longer Version.
If you would like to see my day-to-day task tracking of what I was working from Jan 2018-Jan 2019, see Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process Daily Tracking List.
Abbreviated Timeline for Jan 2018-April 2019
2018
1/03/18 — Journalist Aurora Snow requests an interview for an article about consent and behavior on and off porn sets for The Daily Beast, and asks if Reid would be willing to share his perspective on comments made about his alleged behavior.
1/04/18 — Aurora Snow interviews Reid and shares the comments that were made.
1/17/18 — Aurora Snow’s Daily Beast article goes live.
1/22/18 — Reid posts public apology to Kelly Shibari on Facebook.
1/22/18 — Alex S Morgan announces that Reid has begun a restorative justice process, has begun forming an accountability pod, and that Alex will be on the pod.
1/25/18 — Reid announces that he will step down from teaching for the foreseeable future, cancels all speaking and teaching gigs, and sends list of alternative, more intersectional teachers to organizers and college administrators who responded positively to his suggestion to consider replacing him.
1/26/18 — Anonymous reporting link for survivors is created by Alex S Morgan.
1/27/18 — Aida Manduley shares Public Sources & Community Responses to Reid Mihalko’s Harmful Behaviors document.
1/29/18 — Moderation policy for Reid’s apology thread announced on Facebook.
1/30/18 — Reid begins search for a therapist.
2/1/18 — Angel Adeyoha formally announces role on Reid’s accountability pod.
2/6/18 — Kelly Shibari sends email communication to roundup interested people to form her support pod. Her pod initially becomes comprised of Sarah Sloane, Tristan Taormino, Aida Manduley, Shanna Katz, Erin Kennedy, AV Flox, and a community member (referred to as X in these documents) who did not wish to be publicly identified.
2/15/18 — Reid secures a therapist for weekly sessions.
2/20/18 — Aida Manduley announces role on Kelly Shibari’s pod.* Announces the other pod members, and their pod’s own anonymous reporting collection Google form entitled “Sharing Stories of Reid Mihalko’s Misconduct.”
*Kelly’s pod is eventually renamed the survivor support pod and will be referred to as such throughout the rest of this document.
2/20/18 — Reid’s pod shelves their original anonymous reporting link in favor of the survivor support pod’s anonymous link. Both pods and Reid begin promoting the new link.
2/21/18 — Heather Elizabeth announces role on Reid’s accountability pod.
2/21/18 — Reid begins weekly therapy appointments.
2/26/18 — Cassandra Perry announces role on Reid’s accountability pod.
2/26/18 — Erin Kennedy steps back from the survivor support pod and as liaison with Reid’s pod.
2/26/18 — Tristan Taormino steps up as liaison with Reid’s pod.
2/28/18 — Complete list of Reid’s pod members announced on Facebook.
2/28/18 — Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process blog on Medium.com goes live.
2/28/18 — Updates on my accountability work & structures for transparency… post published on Medium.com.
3/06/18 — Soft deadline for submitting personal accounts to the survivor support pod’s “Sharing Stories of Reid Mihalko’s Misconduct” anonymous reporting form.
3/10/18 — Reid begins compiling his educational resources and handouts for an eventual content audit to look for missing pieces or teaching his blind spots.
3/11/18 — First round of anonymous reporting analysis completed by Aida Manduley and Sarah Sloane. Analysis disseminated within the survivor support pod.
3/23/18 — Reid adjusts ReidAboutSex.com website access. “Freezes” homepage with accountability process announcement and link to the Medium.com blog. Reid begins FWD’ing passive income URLS to Medium.com blog.
3/23/18 — Website Updated To Reflect My Accountability Process published.
4/03/18 — Updates from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability pod published by Heather Elizabeth on behalf of Reid’s pod.
4/16/18 — Tristan Taormino steps back as liaison with Reid’s pod. Aida Manduley steps up as primary liaison with Reid’s pod.
4/18/18 — Digital Town Hall Meeting and Q&A held for Sex Geek Summer Camp ticket holders and Camp Alumni.
5/01/18 — 2018 Sex Geek Summer Camp cancelation announced to public via 2018 Sex Geek Summer Camp Announcement and Overview… published on Medium.
5/03/18 — Town Hall Reflections from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability pod published by Heather Elizabeth on behalf of Reid’s pod.
5/03/18 — The survivor support pod and Reid’s pod meet via Zoom.
5/04/18 — Anonymous reporting data collected by the Survivor Support pod shared with Reid’s pod.
5/08/18 — Reid’s pod discusses anonymous reporting data among themselves, prepares to share information with Reid.
5/10/18 — Pod emails Reid the survivor support pod’s anonymous reporting analysis and high-level overview.
5/10/18 — 1st group accountability call with Reid’s pod and Reid to go over anonymous reporting information results.
5/14/18 — Sent private apology requested by anonymous reporter to my pod to be FWD’d to survivor support pod to be FWD’d to anonymous reporter.
5/17/18 — The survivor support pod and Reid’s pod have 2nd meeting via Zoom.
5/21/18 — Accountability call with my pod to let me know Kelly’s amends requests that were forwarded to my pod via the survivor support pod.
6/03/18 — The survivor support pod and Reid’s pod have 3rd meeting via Zoom.
6/28/18 — Survivor support pod 4 Reid Mihalko Accountability blog on Medium.com goes live.
6/28/18 — Survivor support pod for Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process: History & Functioning published by the survivor support pod.
6/28/18 — Survivor support pod for Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process: Story Collection Overview and Analysis published by the survivor support pod.
6/28/18 — The survivor support pod posts that Kelly has stepped back from direct participation with the survivor pod process, but is still being updated on an as-needed basis.
7/03/18 — Where I’m at Currently in my Accountability Process published.
7/03/18 — Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process Resource List Google Doc made public. 7/20/18 — The survivor support pod and Reid’s pod have 4th meeting via Zoom.
7/28/18 — I promote the survivor support pod’s Medium blog channel to build awareness
8/13/18 — Accountability pod Updates and Reflections on Direct Work with Reid published by Heather Elizabeth on behalf of Reid’s pod.
8/20/18 — Reid’s New Commitments Moving Forward published.
9/03/18 — Reid Mihalko Accountability pod’s Next Steps in Winding Down published by Heather Elizabeth on behalf of Reid’s pod.
9/04/18 — My Plan for Reintegrating and Rebuilding Trust With My Community published.
10/19/18 — On Angel Adeyoha’s recommendation, I reach out to M’kali-Hashiki to schedule a conversation to discuss mentoring me.
10/23/18 — Call with M’kali-Hashiki about a possible mentoring relationship.
11/01/18 — Accountability process stalls between Reid and pod as everyone must focus on other obligations. The process gets picked back up in early December.
December 2018-January 2019 — Phase 1 of Reid’s Reintegration Process
12/04/18 — Created 1st draft of workshop flyer for accountability transparency. Share flyer with Angel Adeyoha and rest of pod for feedback.
12/05/18 — Angel Adeyoha and I co-appear at Dossie Easton’s transgressors support group meeting to speak about my accountability process and encourage others to consider RJ/TJ approaches for addressing harm.
12/14/18 — Prepare content audit materials for mentoring session and share them with M’kali-Hashiki and my pod.
12/17/18 — Begin ongoing mentoring sessions with M’kali-Hashiki.
12/25/18 — “Final Posting from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod“ published by Heather Elizabeth on behalf of Reid’s pod. This is the pod’s final Medium blog post announcing that the formal accountability process has ended.
12/26/18 — Promoted on social media the pod’s final accountability blog post.
12/27/18 — Call with M’kali-Hashiki.
2019
January-February 2019 — Phase 2 of Reid’s Reintegration Process
1/24/19—Resources, Timeline, and Final Words from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process, the final blog post in my formal accountability process’ Medium blog, published
1/25/19 — Driving awareness of the accountability blog and that the formal process has ended begins
February-March 2019 — Phase 3 of Reid’s Reintegration Process
2/3/2019 — Non-teaching public appearances resume.
2/14/19 — Posting on social media of things other than accountability process updates begins
2/15/19 — Boosting other educators’ work and restorative justice/transformative justice and accountability resources on social media begins.
2/21/19 — Reid shoots Facebook Live video to inform folks that his formal Accountability Process has come to close and that he will be announcing Sex Geek Summer Camp and starting teaching again soon.
2/22/19 — Survivor Support Pod posts Formal Wrap-Up Post from Survivors Pod on Medium
2/28/19 — Updated resources and handouts from content audit begin being released on social media and via email.
3/5/19 — Emailing my newsletter subscribers resumes.
March-April 2019 — Phase 4 of Reid’s Reintegration Process
Planned 3/6/19 — “Unfreeze” and reinstate ReidAboutSex.com homepage and passive income URLS.
Planned 3/06/19 — Creating and promoting educational content resumes.
Planned 3/06/19 — Will begin considering invitations to speak and teach sex education
Planned 3/16/19 — Will consider accepting invites to co-appear to speak about my accountability process with someone who is actively involved in RJ/TJ and accountability work.
Planned 3/20/19 — Will continue on with mentoring, therapy, and personal work.
[NOTE: Dates for the reintegration process steps above are planned projections and will be replaced with actual dates as they happen]
[ETA, 3/4/19: The Survivor Pod’s Formal Wrap-Up Post from Survivors Pod was added to the Complete Blog Posts For This Accountability Process section and mentioned in the If You Could Only Read 3 Posts Besides This One section.]
