The Art of Self-Naming

For the longest time, before I was married, I could never imagine changing my name. I thought the idea of changing your…

Things you learn as a girl

Speak well, but not too loudly, or for too long. Your long pauses and considerations of just the right word are…

The silly, positive things that get me through

Grief holiday

I’m coming up on six months since my father died, and about a month after that, we’ll finally be doing a memorial for him. His family…

On reading and race

I wrote the below last year after finishing Nalo Hopkinson’s Midnight Robber, then starting Cloud Atlas by David Mitchell. Tl;dr: Having my usual fictive environment shifted from the typical white perspective for a while lowered my tolerance for the usual white perspective, and nudged my…