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The Cheated-On
The Cheated-On
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What I Learned From Being Cheated On

What I Learned From Being Cheated On

5 truths I’m passing on to you, dear reader
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Finn Lang
Recovery After Infidelity is Possible If You Do This.

Recovery After Infidelity is Possible If You Do This.

Cheating happens, how you handle it may save your marriage.
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Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. Marriage & Family Therapist
The Real Reason the Mistress Cheats with Your Husband

The Real Reason the Mistress Cheats with Your Husband

She doesn’t know this … but neither do you.
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P. D. Reader
Online Infidelity: Are Cyber Affairs Any Less Harmful?

Online Infidelity: Are Cyber Affairs Any Less Harmful?

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Mitzi Bockmann
5 Ways I Set the Stage For My Spouse’s Cheating

5 Ways I Set the Stage For My Spouse’s Cheating

In retrospect, I know that, in many ways, I set the stage for my spouse’s cheating.
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Mitzi Bockmann
Why Am I Crying for My Lost Husband?

Why Am I Crying for My Lost Husband?

I thought the tears would be for me.
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Martha Manning, Ph.D.
Why Does A Cheater Choose The Lover That They Do?

Why Does A Cheater Choose The Lover That They Do?

Unveiling Hidden Needs in Relationships
Go to the profile of Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Beyond Blame and Shame: A Compassionate Approach to Healing After an Affair

Beyond Blame and Shame: A Compassionate Approach to Healing After an Affair

Navigating the Path to Affair Recovery with Empathy and Understanding
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Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Married to a Cheater — Why Did I Stay So Long?

Married to a Cheater — Why Did I Stay So Long?

The Way It Happened To Me
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Ellen A
Can Infidelity Be A Cry For Help?

Can Infidelity Be A Cry For Help?

Understanding the Unspoken Pleas Behind Betrayal
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Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
How You Handle the Affair Matters

How You Handle the Affair Matters

Building Resilience and Healing After an Affair
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Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
How to Know When It’s Not a Genuine Apology

How to Know When It’s Not a Genuine Apology

It’s normal to disagree in relationships — but how you make up is the best way to see if they truly respect you.
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Michelle Love
The Day I Discovered My Wife Was Cheating

The Day I Discovered My Wife Was Cheating

How Good Friday Marked the Death of My Marriage
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Much Reassembly Required
Blaming Your Cheating Spouse Should Come with a Warning Label

Blaming Your Cheating Spouse Should Come with a Warning Label

How Shifting from Blame to Responsibility Can Heal Relationships and Rebuild Trust
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Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Is Your Partner’s Mental Health Behind the Betrayal?

Is Your Partner’s Mental Health Behind the Betrayal?

Connections Between Mental Illness, Brain Damage, and Infidelity
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Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
I Live in a Sexless Marriage

I Live in a Sexless Marriage

Yes, they exist.
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H
9 Myths About Infidelity That Keep You Stuck in Your Suffering

9 Myths About Infidelity That Keep You Stuck in Your Suffering

Unravel the truth behind infidelity myths and discover the real complexities of affair dynamics.
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Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
A Letter to the Woman I Betrayed

A Letter to the Woman I Betrayed

I had an affair with your husband. How cliché. Yet, I wonder what you’re like. When all the fear and the walls are stripped away — and all…
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Another Millennial Woman
Are You One of the Women Who Can Tell Me About My Husband?

Are You One of the Women Who Can Tell Me About My Husband?

There are some women who have gotten to see a side of my husband that I have not.
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Sarah Clover
Betrayal as Abuse: The Hidden Pain of Affairs

Betrayal as Abuse: The Hidden Pain of Affairs

Unmasking the Trauma and Deception in Infidelity
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Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
9 Things that Make Men Vulnerable to Having an Affair

9 Things that Make Men Vulnerable to Having an Affair

I believe that no one sets out to have an affair. That affairs are things that, more often than not, result from issues entirely unrelated…
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Mitzi Bockmann
My Ex-husband Has Moved in with Me — Isn’t Life Something?

My Ex-husband Has Moved in with Me — Isn’t Life Something?

Change keeps creeping up and biting me in the ass
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Martha Manning, Ph.D.
I Never Believed I Could Fall in Love with My Ex-Husband’s Dog

I Never Believed I Could Fall in Love with My Ex-Husband’s Dog

Attachment transcends marital status and respiratory distress
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Martha Manning, Ph.D.
Understanding the Root Problem Behind an Affair

Understanding the Root Problem Behind an Affair

Peeling Back the Layers
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Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
“Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater” Is Killing Your Marriage

“Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater” Is Killing Your Marriage

Embrace Change and Transform Your Relationship
Go to the profile of Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
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