Urban Girl Notes

…like music for its own sake

“Life is like music for its own sake. We are living in an eternal now, and when we listen to music we are not listening to the past, we are not listening to the future, we are listening to an expanded present.”

Projects and flows

Projects are good on paper, flows are good for you.

Baby notes as memories

I’m happy I write down things about my daughter, for myself — maybe for her dad and for her someday. These baby and toddler things change so fast, you can’t remember everything, or most things. They fade away, as you’re moving with your child into another moment, and then another, and…

Subpar days

Today is an exhausting day, out of nowhere. Suddenly, for no apparent reason, everything is subpar. Not devastating, not bad, just not…

Balancing work and life

Work-life balance. Does it exist, or is it simply an icon to strive for, sufficient in its symbolism? If it’s real…

The road not taken

I took my daughter to Berlin Zoo today. It’s huge, to a point when, after going there for a year, I still find animals I…

I’m the negative one

How do you stay away from negative people if you’re one?

Creation, process and results

Ingmar Bergman’s quote on work

Listening to your child

Listening to your child means saying no to your own immediate reaction (sometimes), to slow down on your emotional response. Not “stop feeling emotions” (it’s impossible) but step away a bit, in order to hear what your child is saying.