Doggy-Style Sex: Pros, Cons and Why It’s Our Favorite Way to Fuck
Doggy-style is loaded with naughty, kinky, skin-slapping options — from spanking to anal — for a hard, deep fucking.
Here’s the deal: Lauren loves to be fucked hard and deep while getting spanked and called “my bitch.” And I love, love, love to hammer the slut to her wet vaginal depths while she calls me “daddy.” That’s why doggy-style is our favorite sex position. Plus, it’s how we conceived our son!
In her own words: “As a woman, it’s [doggy-style] my favorite of the positions. I think for many women, getting on your hands and knees — ideally going to face-down to really let him go deep and hard— and letting your man have his way with you requires some trust and vulnerability, yes, but it just feels so wonderful.”
Doggy-style is a go-to position for the couple that enjoys a wide variety of dominant and submissive sex. In doggy-style, the woman, by virtue of her positioning, has submitted sexually to her man and is allowing him to have his way with her.
But it’s far from a male-centric sex position! Doggy-style gives the woman easy access to her clitoris for self-pleasure while she’s getting pounded, meaning it’s female orgasm-friendly. Doggy-style is, in our view, the perfect position for the quickie. It’s also a safe position for when the woman is pregnant and showing.
Plus, doggy-style has lots of naughty add-on options I’ve listed in the pros below…spanking, restraint, anal play and double-penetration with an anal plug or dildo being our favorites. It’s also a great position for mmf DP. Overall, there is nothing we don’t love about doggy-style. It’s the ultimate position for kinky couples.
The View from Above
So, for the guy, the view of the action in doggy-style is second only to the view he’ll get when being ridden reverse cowgirl. There’s the woman’s beautiful ass — her two round ass cheeks — and there’s the guy’s cock thrusting in and out of her, and there’s her labia moving back and forth with his dick. The first time Lauren got that view of the action was after we shot a homemade sex tape. She got really turned on watching the action.
Another aspect of the view: Depending on how she’s positioned, her asshole is on display. For some women, that’s no big deal. For others, it’s a bridge too far.
When I first got an unfettered view of my wife’s asshole, I actually liked what I saw. I wasn’t sure how I’d feel about seeing that part of her body as she’s a beautiful woman, but I liked it. It was right around that time that anal play started to take off in our marriage. And then soon we took the huge step of full-on anal sex, which we continue to practice to this day.
These days, I love my wife’s asshole.
All that to say, doggy-style was a gateway to not just the pounding intercourse and the dom/sub stuff we both love but also anal sex.
Anal Sex
Lauren is 5'10" with long legs and I’m 6'1". Our similar heights make anal sex in doggy-style position tricky. With anal sex, the angle is critical!
Our “hack” is for her to spread her legs just enough for her ass to drop to a level where I have a good angle for penetrating her bum— but that can wear on her inner thighs after a while. Or, she just just leans forward a bit more, which can hurt her knees after awhile. We always find a way for anal sex to work in doggy-style, including my putting a pillow under my knees, but it can involve some tweaks to our positioning for me to get into her rectum.
Introductory Doggy-Style Variations
Traditional/hands and knees: The traditional way a lot of couples have doggy-style sex is for the woman to be on her hands and knees. That’s how we used to do it and it’s fun enough. Although this variation of doggy-style is relatively tame, a lot of women are shy about getting on their hands and knees for a guy to fuck them from behind. When a woman is on her hands and knees, it’s a form of sexual submission. Plus, as noted above, few details of her backside are left to the imagination.
Spicier/elbow drop: If you’ve been doing “hands and knees” doggy-style and both want to spice things up, consider the “elbow drop” variation. This is when the woman drops from her hands to her elbows/forearms, allowing for deeper, harder sex and a bit more submission. Plus, it starts to really open up her ass for naughtiness if you’ve both agreed to explore that aspect of sexual pleasure.
Face-Down/Ass-Up
We eventually learned that the most enjoyable variation of doggy-style for vaginal and anal sex and dominance/submission is what we call “face-down, ass-up.” That’s where the side of Lauren’s face is literally resting against the mattress and her ass is all the way up — a very submissive position. It’s our preferred way to have doggy-style sex.
Face-down, ass-up doggy-style affords extremely deep penetration, amazing dom/sub fucking, and hard, pounding intercourse (anal sex in face-down, ass-up doggy-style calls for a bit more gentleness). It’s the position allowing me to pound Lauren like “my bitch,” while spanking her, and for her to call me “daddy” — all of which we love.
Pros
- Perfect for quickies almost anywhere and anytime.
- If the woman enjoys a deep, hard fucking (what woman doesn’t?), this is the position for it — she can go face-down, ass-up and enjoy getting pounded.
- Allows the woman to masturbate easily, making it orgasm-friendly for her.
- Affords a stellar view of her and the action — and she knows that and it’s a turn-on not just for the guy but also for her.
- Superb for dominance/submission.
- Has a primal/naughty factor to it.
- Easy position for spanking.
- Great sex position when the woman is pregnant and showing.
- If there’s a third female lover, allows for a nice train effect, which we do often and enjoy.
- Great position for a woman to be DP’d by two guys.
- Allows anal play, including double penetration (with a finger or toy). These days, the anal plug is a mainstay for us. This is also the main position for full-on anal sex.
- For the guy, it’s just a lot of fun to grab your woman by her ass cheeks and hammer her. And she likes that, too!
- Feels INCREDIBLE for her and him when he cums deep inside her.
- Super fun to record and watch later.
Cons
- Not as intimate as missionary or forward cowgirl, making it perfect for group-sex and swapping situations.
- Not a con for us but the guy needs to be OK seeing her asshole and she needs to be OK with him seeing her bum. It’s typically on display in doggy-style position, especially if she’s on her elbows or face-down, ass-up. I like that. Every woman I’ve been with has liked it. But some probably don’t.
- Occasional queefing, which can be dangerous. To prevent queefing in doggy-style, be sure to not let the cock exit her pussy when thrusting.
- As noted above, similar heights can make things tricky.
Next up: Forward cowgirl!
