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Are You Enough?
In the explorations of my own growth, I’m always deepening my understanding. Always wanting to grow, even if the growing pains hurt and I avoid it at first.
A number of years ago, I was talking with a coach about working with her. I knew I wanted the support, but what I also felt was a need for that support.
I have and had lots of support. I’ve made sure of it. Coaches, masterminds, close personal friends.
And yet, I sometimes felt unsupported.
Since that was not the objective reality, there had to be something else behind it.
It wasn’t that the support wasn’t enough. I didn’t feel like I was enough.
Feeling not enough is a fairly common experience for women and many men too. I hear it often from my clients. We’re steeped in a culture where we’re encouraged to do and buy more, to reach that elusive point at which you are and have enough. The problem is, ‘enough’ is like the horizon. We never reach it.
As long as I felt that I wasn’t enough, I would NEVER feel like I had enough support. So the support thing was really a red herring. A distraction from the real work to be done.
Distractions from deeper work can have many disguises: perfectionism, forever being too busy, or relentless productivity are just a few.
