Detox Your Heart

You are your own knight in shining armour

Are you waiting for someone to come save you? I was. And…

I am a survivor of abuse. And I have been thinking.

What many of you are feeling right now about the Kavanaugh confirmation is what I have felt as a victim of abuse.

* Confusion as to why he was able to reap rewards and validation even after there was such strong evidence/credibility as to the…

Cheating on my abusive ex saved my life

I find cheating more or less unforgivable. Exes have cheated on me, and the poisonous mixture of self-doubt, jealousy, and heartbreak your mind cooks up for you in return is excruciating. It’s not something I’ll ever really be on board with, and if anyone ever…

I Am Free — My Life One Year After I Left My Abusive Fiancé

I am free:

To go on road trips

To spend time with my beloved girlfriends

Spiritual Abuse: The “Jezebel Spirit” Accusation

Falling in love taught me to love myself

Over the past few months, I have spoken alot about dating and relationships with my…

Read this when you’re afraid of what lies ahead of leaving your abuser

Today I found this beautiful poem by David Whyte. It’s called The Journey. May it bless your journey.

Spiritual Abuse

My counseling business name is Southlake Christian Counseling. As you can imagine, I get all sorts of inquiries about what exactly the Christian part of my business really means. People wonder, and often worry that they are going to get yet another heavy dose of religious guilt by seeing a counselor…

Why The Church Won’t Recognize Abuse

As a therapist and advocate who specializes in recovery from abuse, I have been witness to many stories of how survivors were treated by their church elders and pastors. I can tell you that some church leadership understands the complexities of domestic abuse, but…