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How to fight well
Get comfortable with conflict, have the conversations that matter.
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Conditions for better conversations
Conditions for better conversations
Practicing these three principles in how you communicate — with others and yourself — will lead to healthier conflict and conversations…
Max St John
Mar 1, 2018
Dealing with triggers (yours and others)
Dealing with triggers (yours and others)
What happens when you’re triggered and how not to let it ruin conversations, collaborations and relationships.
Max St John
Sep 6, 2018
How to act wisely in conflict
How to act wisely in conflict
When we’re triggered we feel urged to act immediately. But those actions often come with unintended, unhelpful consequences. Here’s how to…
Max St John
Jul 24, 2019
Why We Fight – Part One: Judgement, blame and endless cycles of conflict.
Why We Fight – Part One: Judgement, blame and endless cycles of conflict.
We blame other people for our frustrations and fears. The stories we tell about them leave us locked in a powerless and unfulfilling…
Max St John
Feb 7, 2018
Why we fight - Part Two: Drama, victimhood and endless invitations
Why we fight - Part Two: Drama, victimhood and endless invitations
This is a two-part series exploring why we experience conflict, and how to find a more healthy relationship with it. Read Part One or sign…
Max St John
Apr 19, 2018
Why you need to stop helping.
Why you need to stop helping.
There’s a model in psychology called ‘The Drama Triangle’, created by someone called Dr Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. It gives us a way of…
Max St John
Jul 9, 2020
Compassion is selfish and you need it.
Compassion is selfish and you need it.
Thinking about compassion as a moral imperative — that we should be nice — is missing the point and choosing to make our lives miserable.
Max St John
Nov 21, 2018
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A map for conflict
A map for conflict
Introducing a tool for navigating any difficult situation.
Max St John
Feb 27, 2023
Let your kids fight
Let your kids fight
Why we need to get better at managing our own issues with conflict before trying to sort our our kids’ fights.
Max St John
Jan 14, 2023
How to say “No”.
How to say “No”.
A short course on getting better at boundaries.
Max St John
Jan 9, 2023
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