DISCUSS BUT DON’T ARGUE
Do we win when we win an argument?
What’s up re-inventors!
The topic for today’s post is one that has crossed my mind many a times.
This specifically can be a sequel to the post ‘The one thing that you can do today to build a positive personality’ as it is one the best steps towards a win-win situation, which is key to a positive personality.
In everyday life we often meet people or enter into conversations with people which take no time to turn into an argument. Right?
It doesn’t matter what the argument was about. It can be as small as deciding what you have to eat that night or it can be a serious argument between you and your friend/relative.
In ALL the cases the result is ACTUALLY NOT WORTH the argument
Just wait and think for some seconds (because I know you all are very busy), WHAT DOES A PERSON GAIN WHEN HE WINS AN ARGUMENT, besides mere ego-satisfaction?
THE ANSWER IS NOTHING
In fact, the person who LOSES will learn something new and YOU stand there, having wasting your precious time convincing the person about a topic which you do not even care about.
Thinking about this always makes me believe that there is no good in arguing over petty matters.
BUT……it’s easier said than done. Most people cannot resist the urge to argue and prove themselves right, which is normal but detrimental. Every time you argue, you may strain your relationship with that person without even knowing it.
SO here are a few steps that you can implement to not engage in an argument:
1. Expect the person to disagree:
We all know that we are different. No two brains can work the exact same way. Thus, it is natural that people may disagree with your point of view. When such disagreement arises, do not jump over the person trying to prove yourself right but respectfully LISTEN to him/her.
2. Cool down:
There is no point shooting your temper over the roof during such a situation. It’s a DISCUSSION not an ARGUMENT.
Read: HOW I WENT FROM BEING SHORT TEMPERED TO BEING EXTREMELY CALM
3. Listen:
As simple as it sounds, listen. Without any reaction or uttering a word, let the other person completely state his/her point of view.
Read: DON’T LISTEN TO REPLY, LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND
4. Empathize and think from their point of view:
I have mentioned the importance of empathy in listening in one of my previous articles, but still I wanted to mention it separately due to the importance that it has.
Put yourself in other person’s shoes and see the magic happen!
So re-inventors, this was something that I had a problem with and thus I thought that finding a solution to this problem will help me to provide you some value.
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