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Passion: Feeling Intensely w/o Wreckage

Pain vs. suffering — what can be learned from studying the brains of meditators

Pain vs. suffering — what can be learned from studying the brains o...

When tested for resistance to pain, Zen meditation practitioners showed a higher pain threshold than non-meditators.

Jun 18, 2021

How to handle emotions

How to handle emotions

A few things to know about your feelings that might shed some light on what to do with them.

Apr 17, 2020

Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.

Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.

If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the issue.

Jan 18, 2020

Compromise in your relationship? NO. Here’s a better alternative.

Compromise in your relationship? NO. Here’s a better alternative.

Compromise is an outcome of lone rangering. The whole premise of relationship is that something better is possible.

Jul 16, 2019

Confidence as a relationship superpower

Confidence as a relationship superpower

Confidence gave me a much needed ego. Greater confidence let helped set it aside.

Feb 6, 2019

3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly

3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly

Anger isn’t as dangerous as we think… or as useful. Here’s what you need to know to transition from emotional to effective.

Dec 26, 2018

Self-judgment as a kind of motion sickness

Self-judgment as a kind of motion sickness

If growth is movement, then self-judgment is just motion sickness during the turbulent part.

Oct 23, 2016

The Path from Desire to Fulfillment

The Path from Desire to Fulfillment

It's a cycle. Here are some of the places we can get stuck along the way.

Sep 26, 2014

Helping a guy understand “worship” and “surrender”

Helping a guy understand “worship” and “surrender”

In which I attempt to translate a woman's Letter to Men to a guy who wants to understand

Jun 20, 2018

Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)

Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)

If you fight, fight like a pro.

Jul 3, 2017

Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.

Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.

He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…

Jun 20, 2017

The Path from Acquiescence to Surrender

The Path from Acquiescence to Surrender

They look the same, but they’re opposites. An entire life journey separates one from the other.

Sep 21, 2014

Breaking Ranks

As you start to live a more feeling-based life…

Jul 6, 2016

If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.

If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.

A few reminders to You, Creator of Everything.

Aug 23, 2016

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