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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
Ken Blackman
Mar 13, 2018
For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible
For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible
Perfect match… or deep connection?
Ken Blackman
Sep 29, 2016
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Oct 18, 2014
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the issue.
Ken Blackman
Jan 18
Why I stopped using “masculine” and “feminine” (and what I say instead)
Why I stopped using “masculine” and “feminine” (and what I say inst...
In 2015 we set out to redefine healthy masculinity. Then I realized the word had problems that wouldn’t be resolved by a new definition.
Ken Blackman
Nov 12, 2018
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
Ken Blackman
Jun 25, 2018
What Sex Is.
What Sex Is.
In which I propose a working definition.
Ken Blackman
Sep 24, 2019
Helping a guy understand “worship” and “surrender”
Helping a guy understand “worship” and “surrender”
In which I attempt to translate a woman's Letter to Men to a guy who wants to understand
Ken Blackman
Jun 20, 2018
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
Ken Blackman
Jun 20, 2017
3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly
3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly
Anger isn’t as dangerous as we think… or as useful. Here’s what you need to know to transition from emotional to effective.
Ken Blackman
Dec 26, 2018
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
(My changing definition of respecting women)
Ken Blackman
Nov 5, 2017
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
For a different reason than you might think.
Ken Blackman
Apr 6, 2018
Don’t “compromise” in your relationship, do this instead.
Don’t “compromise” in your relationship, do this instead.
Lone rangers feel like they need to compromise. The whole point of relationship is the promise of something better.
Ken Blackman
Jul 16, 2019
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
It starts with taking positive steps for oneself
Ken Blackman
Oct 8, 2016
Your prospects for a great love life with your long-term partner
Your prospects for a great love life with your long-term partner
Does sex improve or decline in a committed relationship? What’s required to have a great love life long-term? Here’s an analogy…
Ken Blackman
Apr 29, 2018
On music, cooking, and sex
On music, cooking, and sex
The learning curve is similar…
Ken Blackman
Aug 14, 2019
Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3
Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3
Relationship problems exacerbate jealousy. People getting everything they want tend to feel less jealous.
Ken Blackman
Jan 22, 2016
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Consider this: You did not set out to find a partner that literally no one is attracted to.
Ken Blackman
Jan 21, 2016
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