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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
Ken Blackman
Mar 13, 2018
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Oct 18, 2014
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
Ken Blackman
Jul 6, 2017
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
For a different reason than you might think.
Ken Blackman
Apr 6, 2018
What Sex Is.
What Sex Is.
In which I propose a working definition.
Ken Blackman
Sep 24
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
Ken Blackman
Jun 25, 2018
For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible
For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible
Perfect match… or deep connection?
Ken Blackman
Sep 29, 2016
The Fallacy of “Compromise” in relationships
The Fallacy of “Compromise” in relationships
Lone rangers feel like they need to compromise. The whole point of relationship is the promise of something better.
Ken Blackman
Jul 16
Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner
Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner
It isn't a rule that couples have to have the same set of rules for each other. Here's an example of why, and how, it can work.
Ken Blackman
May 30, 2018
3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly
3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly
Anger isn’t as dangerous as we think… or as useful. Here’s what you need to know to transition from emotional to effective.
Ken Blackman
Dec 26, 2018
Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a relationship
Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a rel...
How long can someone remain unhappily single before they admit that it’s more than just a searching problem?
Ken Blackman
Sep 27, 2017
The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris
The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris
(Hint: it’s just like a penis, only completely different.)
Ken Blackman
Apr 10, 2018
Powerful Woman Confident Man
Powerful Woman Confident Man
A sneak peak into what’s coming
Ken Blackman
Mar 25, 2017
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
It starts with taking positive steps for oneself
Ken Blackman
Oct 8, 2016
The Path from Acquiescence to Surrender
The Path from Acquiescence to Surrender
They look the same, but they’re opposites. An entire life journey separates one from the other.
Ken Blackman
Sep 21, 2014
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Consider this: You did not set out to find a partner that literally no one is attracted to.
Ken Blackman
Jan 21, 2016
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
Ken Blackman
Jun 20, 2017
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