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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
Ken Blackman
Mar 13, 2018
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
Ken Blackman
Jul 6, 2017
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
Ken Blackman
Jun 25, 2018
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Oct 18, 2014
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
(My changing definition of respecting women)
Ken Blackman
Nov 5, 2017
The Self Empowering Monogamy Pledge
The Self Empowering Monogamy Pledge
The thing I totally didn’t realize about monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Jul 14, 2015
Possession/Ownership — Jealousy Part 5
Possession/Ownership — Jealousy Part 5
Underneath your need to own someone is your desire to be owned by them, and it’s terrifying.
Ken Blackman
Jan 24, 2016
The Path from Desire to Fulfillment
The Path from Desire to Fulfillment
It's a cycle. Here are some of the places we can get stuck along the way.
Ken Blackman
Sep 26, 2014
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
It starts with taking positive steps for oneself
Ken Blackman
Oct 8, 2016
It’s 2017 and it’s still possible for a woman to be TOO capable to be considered a good mate. WTF!
It’s 2017 and it’s still possible for a woman to be TOO capable to ...
THE PROBLEM is we’re still stuck with our grandparents’ sensibilities about how romantic relationships are supposed to work.
Ken Blackman
Oct 19, 2017
The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris
The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris
In case you know someone who could use this information.
Ken Blackman
Apr 10, 2018
Fucking is an advanced practice
Fucking is an advanced practice
In a recent Facebook Live I did on physical intimacy, I said “fucking is an advanced practice.” This comment drew a lot of questions.
Ken Blackman
Feb 28, 2018
Your prospects for a great love life with your long-term partner
Your prospects for a great love life with your long-term partner
Does sex improve or decline in a committed relationship? What’s required to have a great love life long-term? Here’s an analogy…
Ken Blackman
Apr 29, 2018
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
Ken Blackman
Jun 20, 2017
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Consider this: You did not set out to find a partner that literally no one is attracted to.
Ken Blackman
Jan 21, 2016
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