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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
Ken Blackman
Mar 13, 2018
How to handle emotions
How to handle emotions
A few things to know about your feelings that might shed some light on what to do with them.
Ken Blackman
Apr 17
For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible
For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible
Perfect match… or deep connection?
Ken Blackman
Sep 29, 2016
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
For a different reason than you might think.
Ken Blackman
Apr 6, 2018
What Sex Is.
What Sex Is.
In which I propose a working definition.
Ken Blackman
Sep 24, 2019
Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner
Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner
It isn't a rule that couples have to have the same set of rules for each other. Here's an example of why, and how, it can work.
Ken Blackman
May 30, 2018
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Oct 18, 2014
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
Ken Blackman
Jun 25, 2018
The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris
The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris
(Hint: it’s just like a penis, only completely different.)
Ken Blackman
Apr 10, 2018
Why I stopped using “masculine” and “feminine” (and what I say instead)
Why I stopped using “masculine” and “feminine” (and what I say inst...
In 2015 we set out to redefine healthy masculinity. Then I realized the word had problems that wouldn’t be resolved by a new definition.
Ken Blackman
Nov 12, 2018
3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly
3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly
Anger isn’t as dangerous as we think… or as useful. Here’s what you need to know to transition from emotional to effective.
Ken Blackman
Dec 26, 2018
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
Ken Blackman
Jun 20, 2017
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
(My changing definition of respecting women)
Ken Blackman
Nov 5, 2017
We’re Social Animals, Isolation Isn’t Great For Us
We’re Social Animals, Isolation Isn’t Great For Us
The science of how emotions evolved and why human connection affects our physical health.
Ken Blackman
May 14
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
It starts with taking positive steps for oneself
Ken Blackman
Oct 8, 2016
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the issue.
Ken Blackman
Jan 18
Rational Vs. Emotional — Jealousy Part 2
Rational Vs. Emotional — Jealousy Part 2
Jealousy is a two-headed, green-eyed monster. It’s got an intellectual side and an emotional side.
Ken Blackman
Jan 20, 2016
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