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Direct, honest discourse on relationships, love, sex, and life

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  • Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

    Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

    Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
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    Ken Blackman
    Mar 13, 2018
    On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

    On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

    If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
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    Ken Blackman
    Oct 18, 2014
    Mediocre sex is not an option.

    Mediocre sex is not an option.

    Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
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    Ken Blackman
    Jul 6, 2017
    Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend

    Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend

    For a different reason than you might think.
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    Ken Blackman
    Apr 6, 2018
    What Sex Is.

    What Sex Is.

    In which I propose a working definition.
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    Ken Blackman
    Sep 24
    Great sex involves exquisite pacing

    Great sex involves exquisite pacing

    The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
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    Ken Blackman
    Jun 25, 2018
    For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible

    For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible

    Perfect match… or deep connection?
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    Ken Blackman
    Sep 29, 2016
    The Fallacy of “Compromise” in relationships

    The Fallacy of “Compromise” in relationships

    Lone rangers feel like they need to compromise. The whole point of relationship is the promise of something better.
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    Ken Blackman
    Jul 16
    Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner

    Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner

    It isn't a rule that couples have to have the same set of rules for each other. Here's an example of why, and how, it can work.
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    Ken Blackman
    May 30, 2018
    3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly

    3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly

    Anger isn’t as dangerous as we think… or as useful. Here’s what you need to know to transition from emotional to effective.
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    Ken Blackman
    Dec 26, 2018
    Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a relationship

    Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a rel...

    How long can someone remain unhappily single before they admit that it’s more than just a searching problem?
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    Ken Blackman
    Sep 27, 2017
    The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris

    The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris

    (Hint: it’s just like a penis, only completely different.)
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    Ken Blackman
    Apr 10, 2018
    Powerful Woman Confident Man

    Powerful Woman Confident Man

    A sneak peak into what’s coming
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    Ken Blackman
    Mar 25, 2017
    A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.

    A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.

    It starts with taking positive steps for oneself
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    Ken Blackman
    Oct 8, 2016
    The Path from Acquiescence to Surrender

    The Path from Acquiescence to Surrender

    They look the same, but they’re opposites. An entire life journey separates one from the other.
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    Ken Blackman
    Sep 21, 2014
    Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6

    Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6

    Consider this: You did not set out to find a partner that literally no one is attracted to.
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    Ken Blackman
    Jan 21, 2016
    Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.

    Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.

    He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
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    Ken Blackman
    Jun 20, 2017
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