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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
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Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend

Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend

For a different reason than you might think.
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Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner

Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner

It isn't a rule that couples have to have the same set of rules for each other. Here's an example of why, and how, it can work.
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Mediocre sex is not an option.

Mediocre sex is not an option.

Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
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How to handle emotions

How to handle emotions

A few things to know about your feelings that might shed some light on what to do with them.
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Working Monogamy

Working Monogamy

Don’t focus on monogamy. Focus on improving the relationship.
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On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
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Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a relationship

Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a rel...

How long can someone remain unhappily single before they admit that it’s more than just a searching problem?
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My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny

My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny

(My changing definition of respecting women)
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If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.

If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.

A few reminders to You, Creator of Everything.
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Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)

Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)

If you fight, fight like a pro.
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The Path from Desire to Fulfillment

The Path from Desire to Fulfillment

It's a cycle. Here are some of the places we can get stuck along the way.
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Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.

Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.

If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the issue.
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Fucking is an advanced practice

Fucking is an advanced practice

In a recent Facebook Live I did on physical intimacy, I said “fucking is an advanced practice.” This comment drew a lot of questions.
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Your prospects for a great sex life with your long-term partner

Your prospects for a great sex life with your long-term partner

Does sex improve or decline in a committed relationship? What’s required to have a great love life long-term? Here’s an analogy…
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Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3

Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3

Relationship problems exacerbate jealousy. People getting everything they want tend to feel less jealous.
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Great sex involves exquisite pacing

Great sex involves exquisite pacing

The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
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