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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
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On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
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Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.

Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.

If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the problem.
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For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible

For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible

Perfect match… or deep connection?
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Great sex involves exquisite pacing

Great sex involves exquisite pacing

The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
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Mediocre sex is not an option.

Mediocre sex is not an option.

Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
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Fucking is an advanced practice

Fucking is an advanced practice

In a recent Facebook Live I did on physical intimacy, I said “fucking is an advanced practice.” This comment drew a lot of questions.
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What Sex Is.

What Sex Is.

In which I propose a working definition.
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Confidence as a relationship superpower

Confidence as a relationship superpower

Confidence gave me a much needed ego. Greater confidence let helped set it aside.
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Working Monogamy

Working Monogamy

Don’t focus on monogamy. Focus on improving the relationship.
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The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris

The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris

(Hint: it’s just like a penis, only completely different.)
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The Fallacy of “Compromise” in relationships

The Fallacy of “Compromise” in relationships

Lone rangers feel like they need to compromise. The whole point of relationship is the promise of something better.
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A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.

A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.

It starts with taking positive steps for oneself
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The Path from Acquiescence to Surrender

The Path from Acquiescence to Surrender

They look the same, but they’re opposites. An entire life journey separates one from the other.
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Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend

Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend

For a different reason than you might think.
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On music, cooking, and sex

On music, cooking, and sex

The learning curve is similar…
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Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3

Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3

Relationship problems exacerbate jealousy. People getting everything they want tend to feel less jealous.
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Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6

Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6

Consider this: You did not set out to find a partner that literally no one is attracted to.
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