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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
Ken Blackman
Mar 13, 2018
Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner
Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner
It isn't a rule that couples have to have the same set of rules for each other. Here's an example of why, and how, it can work.
Ken Blackman
May 30, 2018
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
(My changing definition of respecting women)
Ken Blackman
Nov 5, 2017
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
Ken Blackman
Jun 25, 2018
Pain vs. suffering — what can be learned from studying the brains of meditators
Pain vs. suffering — what can be learned from studying the brains o...
When tested for resistance to pain, Zen meditation practitioners showed a higher pain threshold than non-meditators.
Ken Blackman
Jun 18
Why I stopped using “masculine” and “feminine” (and what I say instead)
Why I stopped using “masculine” and “feminine” (and what I say inst...
In 2015 we set out to redefine healthy masculinity. Then I realized the word had problems that wouldn’t be resolved by a new definition.
Ken Blackman
Nov 12, 2018
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Oct 18, 2014
Before You Call Something “Toxic,” Consider This
Before You Call Something “Toxic,” Consider This
Here’s the forgotten word that could avoid endless bickering and help build consensus.
Ken Blackman
Jul 21
Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a relationship
Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a rel...
How long can someone remain unhappily single before they admit that it’s more than just a searching problem?
Ken Blackman
Sep 27, 2017
If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.
If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.
A few reminders to You, Creator of Everything.
Ken Blackman
Aug 23, 2016
Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)
Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)
If you fight, fight like a pro.
Ken Blackman
Jul 3, 2017
The Path from Desire to Fulfillment
The Path from Desire to Fulfillment
It's a cycle. Here are some of the places we can get stuck along the way.
Ken Blackman
Sep 26, 2014
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the issue.
Ken Blackman
Jan 18, 2020
Fucking is an advanced practice
Fucking is an advanced practice
In a recent Facebook Live I did on physical intimacy, I said “fucking is an advanced practice.” This comment drew a lot of questions.
Ken Blackman
Feb 28, 2018
Your prospects for a great sex life with your long-term partner
Your prospects for a great sex life with your long-term partner
Does sex improve or decline in a committed relationship? What’s required to have a great love life long-term? Here’s an analogy…
Ken Blackman
Apr 29, 2018
How to handle emotions
How to handle emotions
A few things to know about your feelings that might shed some light on what to do with them.
Ken Blackman
Apr 17, 2020
Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3
Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3
Relationship problems exacerbate jealousy. People getting everything they want tend to feel less jealous.
Ken Blackman
Jan 22, 2016
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