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What Sex Is.
What Sex Is.
In which I propose a working definition.
Ken Blackman
Sep 24
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
Ken Blackman
Mar 13, 2018
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
Ken Blackman
Jun 25, 2018
For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible
For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible
Perfect match… or deep connection?
Ken Blackman
Sep 29, 2016
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Oct 18, 2014
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
Ken Blackman
Jul 6, 2017
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
For a different reason than you might think.
Ken Blackman
Apr 6, 2018
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
Ken Blackman
Jun 20, 2017
The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris
The simplest math of how to touch a clitoris
(Hint: it’s just like a penis, only completely different.)
Ken Blackman
Apr 10, 2018
The Self Empowering Monogamy Pledge
The Self Empowering Monogamy Pledge
The thing I totally didn’t realize about monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Jul 14, 2015
On music, cooking, and sex
On music, cooking, and sex
The learning curve is similar…
Ken Blackman
Aug 14
Confidence as a relationship superpower
Confidence as a relationship superpower
Confidence gave me a much needed ego. Greater confidence let helped set it aside.
Ken Blackman
Feb 6
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Consider this: You did not set out to find a partner that literally no one is attracted to.
Ken Blackman
Jan 21, 2016
Fucking is an advanced practice
Fucking is an advanced practice
In a recent Facebook Live I did on physical intimacy, I said “fucking is an advanced practice.” This comment drew a lot of questions.
Ken Blackman
Feb 28, 2018
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.
It starts with taking positive steps for oneself
Ken Blackman
Oct 8, 2016
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
(My changing definition of respecting women)
Ken Blackman
Nov 5, 2017
If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.
If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.
A few reminders to You, Creator of Everything.
Ken Blackman
Aug 23, 2016
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