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The Craft Of Intimate Coupledom
Direct, honest discourse on relationships, love, sex, and life
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My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
(My changing definition of respecting women)
Ken Blackman
Nov 5, 2017
Reframing “Masculine” and “Feminine” in Practice
Reframing “Masculine” and “Feminine” in Practice
She asked, “How does healing your own inner masculine attract healthy men into your life?”
Ken Blackman
Aug 27, 2022
You Are Not a Cover Band
You Are Not a Cover Band
Relationships require innovation, originality, and co-creation
Ken Blackman
Jun 5
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the issue.
Ken Blackman
Jan 18, 2020
Why I Stopped Using “Masculine” and “Feminine” (and What I Say Instead)
Why I Stopped Using “Masculine” and “Feminine” (and What I Say Inst...
In 2015 we set out to redefine healthy masculinity. Then I realized the word had problems that wouldn’t be resolved by a new definition.
Ken Blackman
Nov 12, 2018
Are You Enjoying This, Or Just Being Kind?
Are You Enjoying This, Or Just Being Kind?
Here’s the best way to be honest about your level of enthusiasm.
Ken Blackman
Dec 26, 2021
This Is Why Your Relationship Feels Like Work
This Is Why Your Relationship Feels Like Work
My wife and I were recently reflecting on how our relationship never feels like work. Even though it seems like we do a lot of the same…
Ken Blackman
Nov 16, 2021
Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner
Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner
It isn't a rule that couples have to have the same set of rules for each other. Here's an example of why, and how, it can work.
Ken Blackman
May 30, 2018
Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3
Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3
Relationship problems exacerbate jealousy. People getting everything they want tend to feel less jealous.
Ken Blackman
Jan 22, 2016
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
Ken Blackman
Jul 6, 2017
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
Ken Blackman
Jun 20, 2017
Rational Vs. Emotional — Jealousy Part 2
Rational Vs. Emotional — Jealousy Part 2
Jealousy is a two-headed, green-eyed monster. It’s got an intellectual side and an emotional side.
Ken Blackman
Jan 20, 2016
If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.
If you’re tortured by your own preferences you’re using them wrong.
A few reminders to You, Creator of Everything.
Ken Blackman
Aug 23, 2016
Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)
Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)
If you fight, fight like a pro.
Ken Blackman
Jul 3, 2017
The Path from Desire to Fulfillment
The Path from Desire to Fulfillment
It's a cycle. Here are some of the places we can get stuck along the way.
Ken Blackman
Sep 26, 2014
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
Ken Blackman
Mar 13, 2018
Fucking is an advanced practice
Fucking is an advanced practice
In a recent Facebook Live I did on physical intimacy, I said “fucking is an advanced practice.” This comment drew a lot of questions.
Ken Blackman
Feb 28, 2018
How to handle emotions
How to handle emotions
A few things to know about your feelings that might shed some light on what to do with them.
Ken Blackman
Apr 17, 2020
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