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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.
Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
Ken Blackman
Mar 13, 2018
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend
For a different reason than you might think.
Ken Blackman
Apr 6, 2018
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider
If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
Ken Blackman
Oct 18, 2014
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Mediocre sex is not an option.
Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
Ken Blackman
Jul 6, 2017
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.
He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
Ken Blackman
Jun 20, 2017
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
My Graduation from Nice Guy Misogyny
(My changing definition of respecting women)
Ken Blackman
Nov 5, 2017
The Path from Desire to Fulfillment
The Path from Desire to Fulfillment
It's a cycle. Here are some of the places we can get stuck along the way.
Ken Blackman
Sep 26, 2014
Insecurity — Jealousy Part 4
Insecurity — Jealousy Part 4
When you’re more likely to abandon you than your partner is.
Ken Blackman
Jan 23, 2016
How to not compromise in your relationship.
How to not compromise in your relationship.
Lone rangers feel like they need to compromise. The whole point of relationship is the promise of something better.
Ken Blackman
Jul 16, 2019
Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a relationship
Your refusal to be self-sufficient is not the same as wanting a rel...
How long can someone remain unhappily single before they admit that it’s more than just a searching problem?
Ken Blackman
Sep 27, 2017
Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)
Skillful Passion (a lesson in fighting)
If you fight, fight like a pro.
Ken Blackman
Jul 3, 2017
Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3
Envy/Desire — Jealousy Part 3
Relationship problems exacerbate jealousy. People getting everything they want tend to feel less jealous.
Ken Blackman
Jan 22, 2016
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
Stop Calling It A Communication Problem.
If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently then “communication” isn’t the issue.
Ken Blackman
Jan 18
Fucking is an advanced practice
Fucking is an advanced practice
In a recent Facebook Live I did on physical intimacy, I said “fucking is an advanced practice.” This comment drew a lot of questions.
Ken Blackman
Feb 28, 2018
Your prospects for a great love life with your long-term partner
Your prospects for a great love life with your long-term partner
Does sex improve or decline in a committed relationship? What’s required to have a great love life long-term? Here’s an analogy…
Ken Blackman
Apr 29, 2018
On music, cooking, and sex
On music, cooking, and sex
The learning curve is similar…
Ken Blackman
Aug 14, 2019
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
Great sex involves exquisite pacing
The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
Ken Blackman
Jun 25, 2018
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6
Consider this: You did not set out to find a partner that literally no one is attracted to.
Ken Blackman
Jan 21, 2016
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