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Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

Men want sex and women want love? Not exactly.

Our use of technology hints at something surprising about men and women.
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Great sex involves exquisite pacing

Great sex involves exquisite pacing

The interplay between pleasure and desire, explained
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Mediocre sex is not an option.

Mediocre sex is not an option.

Long-term relationships are the ideal opportunity to have the best sex life you’ve ever had.
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On music, cooking, and sex

On music, cooking, and sex

The learning curve is similar…
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On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

On Open Relationships and the Exclusivity Slider

If you want security in your relationship, you better understand the distinction between security and monogamy.
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Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend

Why I outed my own lie to my girlfriend

For a different reason than you might think.
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For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible

For Couples Who Love Each Other But Wonder If They’re Compatible

Perfect match… or deep connection?
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A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.

A Grown Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident Lover & Partner.

It starts with taking positive steps for oneself
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The Self Empowering Monogamy Pledge

The Self Empowering Monogamy Pledge

The thing I totally didn’t realize about monogamy.
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Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.

Emotional outsourcing doesn’t work in the long run, fellas.

He’s a producer by nature. Results-oriented, focused, stoic or even brooding at times. She’s loving and nurturing by nature. She loves him…
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3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly

3 Questions To Move Past Anger Quickly

Anger isn’t as dangerous as we think… or as useful. Here’s what you need to know to transition from emotional to effective.
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Working Monogamy

Working Monogamy

Don’t focus on monogamy. Focus on improving the relationship.
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Your prospects for a great love life with your long-term partner

Your prospects for a great love life with your long-term partner

Does sex improve or decline in a committed relationship? What’s required to have a great love life long-term? Here’s an analogy…
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Breaking Ranks

Breaking Ranks

As you start to live a more feeling-based life…
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Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner

Being monogamous with a non-monogamous partner

It isn't a rule that couples have to have the same set of rules for each other. Here's an example of why, and how, it can work.
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Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6

Too Much Of A Good Thing — Jealousy Part 6

Consider this: You did not set out to find a partner that literally no one is attracted to.
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Helping a guy understand “worship” and “surrender”

Helping a guy understand “worship” and “surrender”

In which I attempt to translate a woman's Letter to Men to a guy who wants to understand
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