I’ve Met Someone

In yet another unexpected twist of my journey, I’ve started dating a good friend (let’s call her K) and am, dare I say, optimistic about what lies ahead.

K has been an important person in my life in the last two years, particularly with respect to my daughter; K’s an early…

A Powerful Reminder That You Never ‘Move On’

By most measures, my life in fall 2023 is orders of magnitude better than it was in fall 2020: I’ve done the hard work of grieving, my daughter is doing really well, I’ve found a new partner who is a wonderful human being, my life is settling into a…

Three Years Later: Honoring While Not Reliving

We’re hitting the three year mark this week, which is both hard and easy to believe. 2020 seems so distant, and yet so close, perhaps elucidating the weird temporal dynamics of COVID more broadly, my grief more specifically.

Another Broken Bone….and an Unexpected Shock to the System

My love for my daughter is profound, an emotional connection forged through both time as a stay-at-home parent and the collective grieving we had to do when her mom died. She’s also one of the coolest human beings I know: funny…

The Gift of Dying Well

I’ve started watching Shrinking, which is a lovely show about a widower navigating the fallout of his wife’s death. It’s funny, well acted, and heart-warming thus far ( I’m only on the second episode), but has also activated some reflections on how the media portrays the widower…

Reflections at Three Years, Part 2

The three year mark has come and gone, although now I’ve got to navigate the last tricky date for this time of year: this week would have been Chelsea and my wedding anniversary (she died about a week before our 10 year anniversary, which was another cosmic d*%k punch…

Applying My Lessons to Others…Earlier than Expected

I can recall a conversation I had with my best friends in the early days of my grief, at which time I had slowly come to grips with what happened and was starting to think about my new reality.

Unexpected Travel (with the Requisite Reflection)

I was talking recently with a friend about the fact that we seem to be losing family, friends, and loved ones at an increasing rate. His take: as we age into our 5th decade, we’re entering a new season of our lives.