Best Apps and AI tools for Domestic Violence and Stalking Victims..and AI Dangers. Part 1
How Artificial Intelligence Can Protect victims of Domestic Violence and Stalking
Note to Readers: I am still writing this article as I do more research.
-The below article will still offer some good ideas for those of you who want to escape or have already, and may not have a someone to ask questions to for now.
-The Tactical Victim-
It’s a Mindset, a New Way of Life 🔒
Survivors of domestic violence and stalking can use artificial intelligence such as Perplexity ai and tools such as ChatGPT, to protect themselves and reduce the risk of being found.
There are so many domestic violence apps that have been created by shelters and others, that can be very useful for victims of abuse.
This article will go over the basics of using artificial intelligence tools like ChatGPT/Claude, Perplexity AI and other domestic violence victim apps.
PS: Just using Google, was of great help in finding apps for domestic violence victims too. (I can’t list them all here!)
Example 1:
→Increasing Your Anonymity when Shopping Online
The article below is an example of how I used Perplexity to reduce the amount of personal information one shares when ordering online.
It gave me advice on how to reduce my digital footprint and anonymize myself.
I have been scared to order anything online since I escaped.
Example Two: AimeeSays
The web-based app is called Aimee Says.
“Aimee evolves into a highly personalized expert available to survivors at low cost”
Here is an Example of a conversation I had with the Chat bot:
-A couple of them are bolded, as I put in content that relates to the advice.
Me:
what steps should I take before I escape?
Aimee’s Answer:
“Before you make any decisions about leaving, it’s important to prioritize your safety. Here are some steps you can consider taking before you escape:
- **Safety Plan**:
Create a safety plan that outlines what you will do in different scenarios, including how you will leave safely and where you will go. Include important phone numbers, emergency contacts, and a bag with essential items ready to go.
2. **Document Evidence**:
Keep a record of any abusive incidents, threats, or intimidating behaviors. This documentation can be helpful in legal proceedings or when seeking support.
3. **Reach Out for Support**:
Contact a domestic violence hotline, counselor, or trusted friends and family members for emotional support and guidance. They can help you navigate your options and provide you with resources.
4. **Financial Independence**:
If possible, start saving money in a safe place or open a separate bank account to ensure you have financial resources when you leave.
5. **Legal Advice**:
Consider consulting with a lawyer who specializes in domestic violence to understand your rights and legal options in your situation.
6. **Safety Network**:
Identify safe places you can go to if you need to leave quickly, such as a trusted friend’s house or a domestic violence shelter.
7. **Stay Aware of Your Surroundings**:
Be mindful of any changes in your abuser’s behavior or any signs of escalation. Trust your instincts and prioritize your safety.
Remember, your safety is the most important thing. If you feel unsure or overwhelmed, please reach out for help. You deserve to be safe and supported.”
It then gave me a couple options,
one was: “Evaluate Message Report”:Uncertain of what this was, I clicked on it,
and here’s what happened:
Aimee
“The messages you have shared demonstrate several key elements commonly associated with the power and control dynamics used by abusers. Here are the pertinent tactics and dynamics from the text:
- **Threats and Intimidation**:
Your abuser has hinted at possessing a large knife “that could be used to cut through human bone”.
This is a clear example of intimidation designed to instill fear and exert control over you.
Such threats can be a way to keep you in a state of constant anxiety and submission.”
Me:
It’s great they offer you a third perspective.The LLM also helps you realize and label, what the abuser is doing to control and intimidate you.
2. **Psychological Abuse**:
The implied threat involving the knife is also a form of psychological abuse.
This form of abuse involves causing emotional distress through fear, manipulation, and coercion,
which can severely impact your mental well-being and sense of safety.”
Me:
It then makes you aware of how these threats and tactics influence your decision making processes.As they say, the first step is awareness.
“Understanding these dynamics is crucial because they directly affect your ability to make decisions and take actions.
The threat of violence can cause paralysis due to fear, making it difficult to plan an escape.
Psychological abuse can diminish self-esteem, leading to confusion and self-doubt about your worthiness of safety and support.
In your situation, these tactics are being used to maintain power and control over you, potentially preventing you from feeling confident and secure enough to leave.
Me:
Here, it lets you know what may be stopping you from leaving.
— to Non Victims reading this, the signs may be “obvious”.However, I can speak from experience, that the knife comment doesn’t come up “right away (when you first meet the person).
-They may have done that in the past and realized that scares someone off.
It’s after months,
after inches and inches, of mildly increasingly worse statements..you psychologically adapt to the incremental abuse both consciously and subconsciously.
Example:
— If you’re used to living in a hot climate, a couple degrees above 110, doesn't make much of a difference. You’ve become acclimated.
— Maybe before you moved to the desert, you lived in an warm environment, so the desert was a milder adaption already.
so when that threat comes, you’ve psychologically adapted to the incremental abuse both consciously and subconsciously.
“It’s important to recognize these tactics for what they are: methods to manipulate and control you.
Consider documenting any threatening behavior and reaching out to trusted sources for help.
Remember that your safety and well-being are paramount.”
-Anne Wintemute, is the co-founder and CEO of Aimee Says.
More on Aimee Says:
- They offer a feedback area too, which I love:
“We’d love to have your feedback!
-We’re constantly developing Aimee to deliver the best possible experience. Your feedback is an important part of that process.”
→I think the conversations you have with this would be a great resource for victims to show law enforcement too.
The OPSEC Dangers First:
-Opsec stands for operational security. These principles often keep us safer than apps and tools.
Before your start searching for domestic violence apps
- A Technology Safety Note:
All of this ai and app research, should be done on a device that your abuser, OR YOUR abuser’s: friends/acquaintances DO NOT HAVE ACCESS TO.
- A Public computer, like a library, is good (or a computer store-like apple, a safe friends house, or maybe even your work could be a good place)
- Go to a library, where you won’t run into friends of theirs, or yours, ideally (that adds another layer of opsec, making sure their friends dint see you there, ask you questions)
- Or you can use a pre-paid phone kept at a public storage, that no one knows about.
(Another necessary Layer, is that all the apps, and email in that phone are different than your main phone/tablet.
Why?: We don’t want notifications alerting your abuser of anything
Now, AI Help: How to use Artificial Intelligence to Protect Victims
AI-Domestic Violence Apps
Perplexity AI
-Perplexity AI is like Google on alot of caffeine and more organized!
What I like about it, is it has access to the internet.
It can give you up to date information and offers you sources and websites to click on.
It also provides suggestions and questions for further research to your question, that are often quite helpful.
You can keep following up with more questions to narrow down the information you want.
— It’s less conversational than LLM’s like Anthropic’s Claude, but it is great for step by step instructions.
✋🏽Make sure to check the links on google, sometimes the information ai provides is inaccurate.
✋🏽I’ve been using Free ChatGPT. I think the paid version is better and more accurate, but still not perfect.
💡 Your mind is the most powerful tool there is.
Your ability to educate, research, understand and properly apply the principles of OPSEC matters the most.
-AI and Apps respond most effectively to you when your already well read on the topic. The more detailed your question is, the more details, angles and information they can provide you with.
They augment what you already know and understand.
ChatgGPT/Claude AI
Here’s an example of it’s use for a domestic violence court case:
Check this out: “How ChatGPT can help abuse survivors represent themselves in court” (Fastcompany)
ChatGPT also helps with research and ideas, with more in depth feedback than perplexity.
It can help you address potential vulnerabilities in your escape plan, by you asking it to do just this.
Or you can assign it a specific role, that you think will help you best.
It is more conversational.
Be Careful: ai tools can produce false and potentially dangerous feedback for dv and stalking victims.
🛑 When your safety is in question, use Google (or call an expert) to double check everything.
Still, proceed with caution.
For example, I remember one of the pieces of information ChatGPT gave me, was not only incorrect, but the one piece of advice/tool it suggested, would have revealed my location and been searchable by public records and google.
Again, it’s NOT all bad.
-You just need to make sure to google, call a lawyer, dv shelter and do more of your own research, to make sure the information is correct.
- Reading, research and comprehension of Operational Security Principles for your threat model, is key. (DigitalGaurdian.com)
-AI tools are a Very Beneficial Tool, if you ask it the right and research backed questions.
Image, Voice and Video AI Tools-Apps
People keep telling me I need to make YouTube for my blog.
Obviously, I don’t feel safe showing my face.
However, now with ai apps, I can create a vlog on YouTube, without using my face, voice and so forth.
Other Creative Approaches IPV (intimate Partner Violence) Victims Can Implement
1) What if the abuser finds out you’re down;loading-using these apps?
→techsafety.org:
“If the abusive person learns about the app and that you are storing documentation and information, it’s possible they may escalate their abusive behavior.
If that person is monitoring your smartphone or tablet, either physically or remotely, and could see that you downloaded this app, consider using this app from a device they don’t have access to.
If you have concerns about your safety, these resources may help you.”
2) Creating a Facebook Account (be cautious though)
Also, you could create a fb account, that appears like you’re in a different state, city and so on.
🚫 →This is risky though.
You have to be very careful not to give away any information, or real photos, that could lead back to you or hint where you’re escaping too.
🚫When you’re first escaping, get rid of or stop using your social media
(it will give you too much to think about per your safety and any mistakes could create alot of risk).
If later you do create a social media account:
- Again, don’t forget your OPSEC:
⚠️DON’T register with an email address (or number), that is used for your home mortgage, work/personal email, bank account or anything else,
(including subscriptions to a magazine or store you shop at).
- Read this email article.. Your email’s name often tells more than you think!
OPSEC, OPSEC, OPSEC! (don’t add your new friends in your new state..they will see you in state A, but all your friends are in state B!)
Just like the people in the picture below, you shouldn’t stand out either, online or in person.
AI won’t help you as much, unless you instruct it too, and already know a bit yourself about how everything is connected!
→I am Still Drafting and Writing this-
the below section is quite unorganized,
for now
Domestic Violence Apps
(Remember, change the password, email, and phone and phone number, for when creating accounts with these tools, when you escape).
New everything is safest.
Stalking and Domestic Violence Apps for those in the U.S.:
Security Education
“The Tech Safety App offers resources for survivors of technology-facilitated stalking or abuse and the advocates who assist them. (Grant No. 2014-VF-GX-K017 awarded under the OVC FY 2014 Vision 21: Victim Services Mobile Application solicitation and Grant No. 2019-V3-GX-K017 awarded under the OVC FY 2019 Advancing the Use of Technology to Assist Victims of Crime solicitation.)
— Created by the National Network to End Domestic Violence’s Safety Net Project, the app walks users through how a particular technology can be misused, what they can do about it, and offers tips to increase their safety and privacy.”
Survival and Disasters
(from weather, to resources for animals, alerting emergency personal)
— Here’s a few apps I thought would help protect abuse victims and could be used creatively too, hidden in fake calculator or a fake news apps:
- SirenGPS (your community needs to subscribe to it though)
“Dialing 911 from a mobile phone doesn’t bring instant aid, because dispatchers need some location info to find you. SirenGPS (Android, iOS) puts them at the touch of one big red button.
If your community subscribes to Siren 911, nearby first responders will receive your location and profile (emergency contacts, medical history, allergies and current medications, which you put into the app),
improving your chance of being rescued in time.”
- Noonlight
www.noonlight.com (they also offer home security solutions)
“Noonlight offers emergency help with the press and release of a button in the Noonlight (Android, iOS) app. Basic features like that panic button are free, but there are also subscription offers of $5 or $10 for even more safety tools.
With Noonlight’s latest update, for $10 per month, riders and drivers of cars, bikes and scooters will also get automatic crash detection and response. Just activate the Noonlight app on your smartphone, and you are covered.
Noonlight will soon launch a driver score feature to give users feedback on their driving safety.”
Look at Your App Store for:
Emergency Resources Apps
for: food banks, dv shelters, hospitals, std/HIV testing centers,
in your area.
Sometimes:
States, counties, cities and non profits will have apps like this for their area.
I had to go to food banks, before I knew I could get food stamps.
If you’ve been sexually assaulted, these apps may have testing centers for free, that are anonymous.
The RAINN app:
-apps.apple.com/us/app/rainn
Global Domestic Violence ans Stalking Resource Apps
South Africa
https://kwanelesouthafrica.org/
“Kwanele’s innovative app gives women and children an easy-to-use tool to report and successfully prosecute crimes involving Gender Based Violence (GBV).
In emergency situations, the Kwanele app provides victims with fast access to help, and to a community to stand with them. The app also provides a tool box of resources for use in court cases to help ensure successful conviction rates against perpetrators.”
U.K.
- Safeline
apps.apple.com/gb/app/safeline
In Australia:
Connect to services:
“Daisy is an app which connects women around Australia to services. Daisy can link you up with a service phone number, be used to search the internet and let you know what to expect when you contact a service.
Family members and friends can use Daisy to gather information and support a loved one’s decision making. Access the Daisy website here.”
Semi and Limited Safety Specific Apps
(The rest of the article below is still being written)
Surfshark VPN and One Plus Plan (turned on 24/7)
(Note to myself, link full.article.on data brokers here)
Voip: (call and text-with a different area code and phone number)
Google Voice
Security and Convenience
Free Password Managers (Bitwarden)
Convenience
(you will lose thing more easily due to stress: have copies, apps etc)
Online Faxing (from different locations)
“How can you send a fax without a fax machine or phone line?
Simple: Use a fax app. The best online fax services use web portals, mobile apps, and your email address to make it possible, sometimes for free.”
Banking and banking apps (use a vpn if accessing over wifi)
(for documents, ID’s, proof, resumes, etc)
Legal Help/Documentation:
DocuSAFE
“DocuSafe is a free app that helps survivors collect, store, and share evidence of abuse, such as domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking, online harassment, and dating violence.
Survivors can document abuse by logging individual incidents, including any photos, screenshots, or video documentation of threatening messages, harassing social media posts, unwanted repeat calls, or online impersonation, among other abusive behaviors.”
Other:
I came across this, and am still.learning how this works:
Non Lethal peperball guns:
https://medium.com/@TheTacticalVictim/advantages-of-pepperball-guns-for-dv-victims-home-travel-self-defense-006eb7d85d56
Create an LLC for a More Private bank Account (using AI)
Related articles and apps:
- Texta.ai (helping victims write legal documents and more)
- sophia.chat app for victims
- how ai can help abuse victims
- “AI-powered app designed to help domestic violence victims”
- Forbes: How tech is preventing and reducing domestic violence
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Thank you all for your support.
-The Tactical Victim-
It’s a Mindset, a New Way of Life 🔒
(Note to myself, include a pinned link, about doing all this research on a separate device)
