How Being Neglected in a Relationship Turned into My Greatest Gift

The day my relationship ended and he moved out, is the day a new relationship with myself began.

Really began.

A Letter to a Woman’s Tender Heart in Today’s Difficult Dating Scene

Dear Heart,

I know you’ve been feeling pretty broken lately. So I wanted to reach out and remind you of how strong you are. I am so proud of you.

What Enabling Really Means in Relationships

This topic has come up quite a bit, lately: Enabling.

How I Know I Didn’t Wreck my Kids by Asking for a Divorce

My kids may have been the biggest reason I’d be willing to stay in a painful marriage. But here’s how I know I didn’t wreck them by asking for a divorce. Even with excruciating fears and doubts; we weren’t being role models for…

13 Self Love Truths Everyone Should Know

Ten years ago, I had a new thought, or maybe it was more of a new question. How would my life be different, if I loved myself? I mean, full on, no conditions, love rather than hate for myself. I had no idea how this would happen, but I knew that something in…

Managing Fear To Unlock Your Creativity

Having taught and trained in martial arts for over 18 years, I am constantly asked questions like, “Do you think you could kick someone’s ass if they tried to assault you?” or told things like, “You must not be afraid of anyone.”

Change This One Thing and Be Productive All The Time

I used to be a list-maker. Not like a grocery list or a packing list list-maker. A plan-every-second-of-your-day kind of list-maker. I remember a boyfriend during that time (poor thing) once looking over my shoulder, horrified. “Do you…

How to Spot a Boy Versus a Man

“There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do.” — Freya Stark

• Boys play house. Men build homes, or will create feelings of stability and security wherever in the world you may travel together.

How Positive Emotions Impact Our Lives

To live a good life, it is not enough to remove the things that are wrong in your life. There will always be something wrong. The nature of existence is wild and chaotic.

3 Ways Finding Your Purpose Makes You Happier

In six months I will be returning to the United States after spending four years living and working in a country and culture very different from my own. I will have to re-adjust to life as an American, which might be as foreign to me as I am to…