How To Take A Casual Relationship Breakup Like a Champ

The other day yet another pseudo-relationship of mine came to an end. This time, it was via Facebook Chat. This is actually the first time I’ve experienced the Facebook Chat “breakup” (Please note I use quotations because consistent…

20 Questions to Set Your Relationship Compass

After a very challenging end to a very challenging relationship, my return to therapy had a level of resolve to it. I was resolving to break patterns, to devise and stick to an action plan, and change my expectations, behaviors and outcomes. I wanted…

Don’t “Future Trip” — Envision it and Make it Happen

Knowledge bomb from Catalyst Noelle Cordeaux: One of the things that gets in the way of goal accomplishment is having too many possible “Future selves.” A future self is an idea of someone we’d like to become, someone we’ve envisioned or…

My Battle with Depression and How I Won

“I overcame myself, the sufferer; I carried my own ashes to the mountains; I invented a brighter flame for myself. And behold, then this ghost fled from me.”…

Destroy Your Default

Everyone has a default. Manifesting in mood, posture, attitude, and energy. Derived from beliefs about yourself and your story. It’s your goto when things aren’t going well. Many of us have shitty defaults. Let’s face it. Stale. Rounded shoulders. Heavy eyes. Nothing’s ever going to happen…

How to Keep a Relationship Working

Imagine that your relationship is an engine in a car. And just because you have one doesn’t mean it’s going anywhere. So in order for this engine to move, the pistons need to be pumping. Four pistons of a relationship, trust, communication, chemistry, and connection…

Across the Country and Back to Come Home to Myself

I hate moving! Lord knows I hate moving!!! Does anyone really enjoy moving? Yet once again, I am moving from one side of the US to the other. Along with three cats and my 27-year-old daughter. Fortunately, this time I didn’t have to eliminate…

Are You the Stepping Stone in Your Relationship?

An ex once said to me, “This is bullshit. Now some other girl gets to experience a better version of you.”

Nothing will promote or stunt growth more than an intimate relationship or the expiration of one. Many turn their…

10 Relationship Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner

1. If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not taking enough risks.

No, that doesn’t mean cheating. By mistakes I mean doing things within the boundaries of the relationship with good intent then taking responsibility for them if…

I’ve Got This — My Most Remarkable Accomplishments after 20 Years of Depression

“Darling, you did it! You got through, you soared, you crawled, you laughed, you cried, you stuttered, you roared, you stumbled, you ran. You danced. You overcame. You softened. You powered up…